Proverbs 28:19-23 NLT
A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty. The trustworthy person will get a rich reward, but a person who wants quick riches will get into trouble. Showing partiality is never good, yet some will do wrong for a mere piece of bread. Greedy people try to get rich quick but don’t realize they’re headed for poverty. In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.
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I want to tell a true story that really happened . So before I made the decision to file for divorce from my disgusting ex-husband , who allegedly got hit by a truck . But like after he got hit he mysteriously was able to go cheat with a woman he worked with a Waffle House because he believed he was getting 1.2 million dollars for a car accident that was really his fault and yes he did NOT get 1.2 million . So , my ex-husband named Ra’keem , decides that instead of working he would rather go beg his white lawyer for food to bring home to his black family (mind you this lawyer was one of the biggest lawyers in Greenville , North Carolina ) so that he could have more time to cheat with some bum female … because apparently me telling him to work two jobs to pay rent was to much for him as a man ( mind you I was working five jobs just to make ends meet because of the recession and being disabled … the disabled money was NOT enough to feed my daughter especially when you add rent , car note, car insurance , health insurance , food , clothes , electricity money , and basic needs). Now … when I found out that Ra’keem was constantly facing eviction and unable to pay rent on time and would rather stand outside the Tobacco shop in Greenville , North Carolina and beg other men for cigarettes and money instead of working I remembered those beautiful words that God said “do not marry Ra’keem” three years and the night before I said I do to Ra’keem . So …. I realized that I had a stronger work ethic than Ra’keem . But also Ra’keem REFUSED to watch my daughter Ruth , because it was getting in the way of his time to go sleep and cheat with the Waffle House worker AND he lied about getting promoted to manager , come to find out Ra’keem had not been to work in almost two weeks so he LIED and was begging and sleeping with another woman while I was at home trying to take care of my daughter and wondering where he was (because you know cheaters don’t answer the phone they just disappear for all hours of the day )….. So…. I was reading a article about how a rapper (who I personally do NOT like ) openly begged two white men for help to pay off his billion dollar debt . Then it clicked ! Like … that’s a serious issue . Do black men realize how bad that looks when his wife has to watch him beg another man for money to provide for his family ? Now because I made the BAD decision to marry this man , I have to start all over and fix my finances because of what he did. I have to continue paying for everything for myself while he can walk around freely stealing clothes from stores , getting high , and cheating with some idiot he met at Waffle House . But what does mommy have to do ? Mommy has to raise her daughter and love her despite what happened . So black men …. Do NOT do what my ex-husband did. Be a real man and work to provide for your family . Do not beg another man for a handout and don’t accept money from another man unless it’s business oriented. You do not understand how much your influence means to your family . Black man do better than my ex-husband .
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Now personally , I know that I will get married again . I love dark men , I LOVE dark men and brown men . I love when a man works hard and when he is a real man and he is serious about his business . I love when a man moves in silence and works in silence . I like when a man is a business man . I like a man who is a BOSS , not an employee but a BOSS (I mean you were an employee at one point and then you graduated into having your own business ) . I love when a black man is educated (even if it is a honorary degree that’s still smart ! ) , I love when a man doesn’t listen to his friends drama and does not let his friends disrespect his woman , and I LOVE THUGS ! So , I believe that there is a good man out there , right now I’m just focused on parenting .
Love ,
Queen Diamond
Real Life Real Jesus 
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