So Jacob worked seven years for Rachel, and they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.
Genesis 29:20 CSB
https://bible.com/bible/1713/gen.29.20.CSB
The Idol of Marriage
I think marriage (when it’s God ordained) is a beautiful thing. However, I think that currently marriage is a idol. Everyone talks about marriage and get married but they dont discuss the character that goes with marriage.. and how to have a true love in Christ Jesus. With that being said I want to talk about how the church has turned a blind eye to sexual abuse in families … Since everyone wants to talk about money let’s talk about the real issue …. Ignorance and stupidity.
How can someone tell someone to be married when their life is completely out of order ? You dont tell them to wait on God … You dont teach them celibacy during healing and you dont teach them faith in God alone.
I’ve seen something terrible. I’m a woman who God has delivered from sexual abuse and it has come from my family. I’ve had to endure old men commenting on my body around women in my family and all they did was laugh … mind you I was in middle school. I was raped as a child , molested, made fun of for incest by my mother , and then someone who has known me since I was a child tried something sexual with me…. The irony is that I told a minister in a church and she turned against me . Yet they all say the same thing…. “God is going to send your husband.”
Please…. 🙄
What happens when you want to wait to be married ? Why doesn’t the church talk about the necessary steps that it takes for a woman to be healed from sexual abuse so she is not disgusted by her husband ? Where are those things? And why do people in the church think it’s ok to mend relationships that involved sexual abuse ? Have we really gotten that stupid? Are we really that far from God that we think it’s ok for a rape victim and a sexual abuser to mend it ? And why do people use God’s name on curses (Exodus 20 MSG)? What does the bible say ?
But when the local prince, Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, saw Dinah, he seized her and raped her. But then he fell in love with her, and he tried to win her affection with tender words. Meanwhile, Jacob’s sons had come in from the field as soon as they heard what had happened. They were shocked and furious that their sister had been raped. Shechem had done a disgraceful thing against Jacob’s family, something that should never be done. Hamor tried to speak with Jacob and his sons. “My son Shechem is truly in love with your daughter,” he said. “Please let him marry her. In fact, let’s arrange other marriages, too. You give us your daughters for our sons, and we will give you our daughters for your sons. “These men are our friends,” they said. “Let’s invite them to live here among us and trade freely. Look, the land is large enough to hold them. We can take their daughters as wives and let them marry ours. So all the men in the town council agreed with Hamor and Shechem, and every male in the town was circumcised. But three days later, when their wounds were still sore, two of Jacob’s sons, Simeon and Levi, who were Dinah’s full brothers, took their swords and entered the town without opposition. Then they slaughtered every male there, including Hamor and his son Shechem. They killed them with their swords, then took Dinah from Shechem’s house and returned to their camp. Meanwhile, the rest of Jacob’s sons arrived. Finding the men slaughtered, they plundered the town because their sister had been defiled there. Afterward Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, “You have ruined me! You’ve made me stink among all the people of this land—among all the Canaanites and Perizzites. We are so few that they will join forces and crush us. I will be ruined, and my entire household will be wiped out!” “But why should we let him treat our sister like a prostitute?” they retorted angrily.
Genesis 34:2-3, 7-9, 21, 24-27, 30-31 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/gen.34.2-31.NLT
If You Need Time To Heal Then Heal
Dont let people make you feel like you have to be married when you have trauma from sexual abuse. Take that time to talk to God and be healed. Why should we rush to get married? So we can have more abusive and toxic marriages ? The problem with marriages today is that you put your perverted marriage before God then pray and ask him to fix it and He’s NOT ! Then have the nerve to turn around and lay hands on somebody like God dont see what’s going on in your house 🤔.
The Bible Says
People may be right in their own eyes, but the Lord examines their heart. Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty. The Righteous One knows what is going on in the homes of the wicked; he will bring disaster on them. Those who shut their ears to the cries of the poor will be ignored in their own time of need. The person who strays from common sense will end up in the company of the dead.
Proverbs 21:2, 5-5, 12-13, 16 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/pro.21.2-16.NLT
You may think you’re right by telling people to mend these disgusting situations but you’ll pay for it. Why should a woman who has been sexually abused be hasty about marriage? Even Esther had to go through a twelve months process. And JACOB had to work SEVEN YEARS FOR RACHEL ! If you ignore sexual abuse God is going to ignore you ! He is not going to hear your prayers !
Stop making excuses from sexual abusers because God is going to expose it in the church!
Also
Some of you (especially women) are married to perverts and monsters and you know what’s going on !
God is going to destroy you. You’re disgusting. You know your spouse is a abuser and because you’re to much of coward you wont leave and trust God…. but we’ll see how that goes for you. 7 years.
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