Engaged On The First Date

Ecclesiastes 11:4Living Bible

If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.[a]

Micro-Dating

What is Micro-Dating ? Well in a world of economic turmoil that is happening world-wide , but particularly in the USA – people rarely have time to sit down and go on a date because of money , time , and finances. Many people find themselves having to juggle and balance hold 2-4 jobs at a time – which leaves a small amount of time to recall fully “date”. But you can “micro-date”. But how ? Well a quick date , immediately after work such as ;

  • Grabbing a cup of coffee from Starbucks immediately in the morning after your work shift – This gives you 1 hours to actually get to know your interest and ask a few questions about who they are and what do they like to do.. This can range from $2 – $30 micro date , which is quick , easy , and affordable !
  • Getting a quick bite to eat at Krispy Kreme Doughnuts – This makes you like urban and shows your love interest that you’re not super religious and that you are someone that they can talk to and ultimately get to know in the long run . This micro – date can range from $5 – $50, and you can sit there and enjoy a cup of coffee and get to know each other ..
  • Going on a walk and using it as a time to exercise together ! A walk is absolutely free of charge , and it can be a good idea for a picnic to sit down and talk and open up to each other . Why don’t you grab a blanket , some fruit , or some food that your significant other likes and take time to enjoy each other presence !

Taking time to enjoy micro dating , can lead to bigger dating and actually going a wonderful more expensive dates that can become actually engagement proposal . Dates like :

  • Dinner on a yacht ( boat )!
  • A boat tour of the city
  • A fun date like the arcade

There are so many great ideas that you could think of. Also, bring boyfriend/ girlfriend to church and introduce them to the faith of Christ !

The moral of the story is , the word of God says that faith without works is dead. If you want a spouse , then you need to do your part and actually date someone and get to know them so that you can become husband and wife !

  • John 3:16

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

What A Night It Has Been

Isaiah 54:17New King James Version

17 No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
And every tongue which rises against you in judgment
You shall condemn.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
And their righteousness is from Me,”
Says the Lord.

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Being a parent comes with unexpected hospital visits. On this episode of the ghetto parenting life chronicles, my ( daughter Ruth) had to be admitted. I believe God for supernatural healing. ( Ruth ) was very sick and throwing up . I say this because as a parent don’t automatically assume that throwing up is normal because it could be a sign that the child needs to go to the doctor.

Because we will be in the hospital for one week. Moral of the story don’t automatically assume that your child is being “extra”, “dramatic”, or “doing something for attention”. Something could really be wrong so get it checked out !

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

How To Prepare When You Are Having Dreams Of Pregnancy

How To Prepare When You Are Having Dreams Of Pregnancy

“One day during the wheat harvest, Reuben found some mandrakes growing in a field and brought them to his mother, Leah. Rachel begged Leah, “Please give me some of your son’s mandrakes.” – Genesis 30:14 NLT

A Joyous Time Of Celebration

          I believe that God designed pregnancy to be a wonderful time and a joyous time of celebration. No matter what stage in life you are in : single , married, or engaged.. Pregnancy is a great time as you prepare to welcome and birth a new life.

          Now, pregnancy is not really complex. How you get pregnant is that the sperm has to fertilize the egg and wala you are pregnant. But what about when you start dreaming of babies and dreaming of pregnancy.. what does that mean?

          Basically, it means that God has already made a decision that you are going to give birth and he has a plan for that child. It means that God does not want you to abort the baby, because he has a plan for the child. Every child that was chosen by God in the Bible, was first prophesied about. Now because we do not have to sacrifice lambs and goats, to get a answer from God – now the prophecy can come to you in a dream that you are indeed about to give birth within the next 2 years and you need to get your life together.

Prepare Now

          If God has already told you ahead of time that you are about to give birth then now is the time, for you to prepare. Now is the time for you to fix your credit score, look for a new apartment that is spacious, look for a new career that provides more money, start researching daycares, do research on local pediatricians, and buy a new car that is spacious for you and the baby. So much can happen in a 12 month time span.. But you have to do your part and be a responsible parent and prepare in the right manner for the baby that God has already told you is going to happen.

          Many times negative doctor’s come with the word that you’ll never have a baby and that is not true at all. You will conceive. There were so many people in the Bible who were told that they would never conceive, and lo and behold 9 months later they were indeed holding a baby.

          If you keep having dreams about you being pregnant ; that does not mean someone else is pregnant and that does not symbolize death. That means that God has a plan for the child that he has chosen you specifically to birth. So mama get ready ! Because baby season is coming and it is coming quickly !

Focusing On Career Advancement

Focusing On Career Advancement

Verse Of The Day – “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You have anointed my head with oil; My cup overflows”. – Psalms 23:5 New American Standard Bible

The Answer Is Yes

          So say you have a phone interview for a company and they tell you that you are hired immediately after the interview. You pass your background check, and now things are finally moving in the direction that you need it to head in. Things are finally getting better. But I want to remind you that The Holy Bible says that to whom much is given much is required.

          Right now you might be in a season, where you wish you were living in something better. Well you have to do things like fixing your credit score, building your resume, and maybe even getting more active and involved in the community to build a good reputation. Sometimes you have to broaden your horizon and expand your influence, to get connected to the right people that will help elevate you into a better season.

          I believe that you are about to hear the word, “Yes” and you are about to hear the word, “YES” a lot. I believe that you are going to start smiling and hearing better words for yourself and that God is going to help you achieve what you desire to achieve, and it shall happen supernaturally.

Ignore The Stupidity

          I know that I am a prophet, and I know that I am a ordained minister. Sometimes people get jealous of me, and I have to ignore them and keep going. I used to have a really bad anger problem, but God is healing me from that issue of anger. You have to learn to ignore people, because they mumble and say things under their breath because they are jealous of you. Do not allow people’s comments to hurt your feelings instead cause it to roll off your back. Move on and know that God is still going to keep advancing you. God does not need someone permission to bless you. God does not care if someone does not want to see you blessed because he is going to bless you anyways. Moral of the story, learn to ignorance and keep going. Do not be foolish, and do not idle away your time worried about what someone else thinks, but instead move on and let God fight your battles.

2 Chronicles 20:15 King James Version

15 “And he said, Hearken ye, all Judah, and ye inhabitants of Jerusalem, and thou king Jehoshaphat, Thus saith the Lord unto you, Be not afraid nor dismayed by reason of this great multitude; for the battle is not yours, but God’s”.

Minister Precious-Diamond Chessier

Kingdom Marriages Loading…

Matthew 19:5-7Expanded Bible

And God said, ‘So a man will leave his father and mother and be ·united with [joined to] his wife, and the two will become ·one body [as though they were one person; T one flesh; Gen. 2:24].’ So they are no longer two, but one. God has joined the two together, so no one should separate them.”

While Working

I was doing research and found so many amazing pictures of marriage. I found black Marriages. I found interracial marriages. I found Jewish marriages and they were great pictures. But while I was looking at pictures God told me to believe him for something great in my love life. I must admit, right now I am in the midst of divorce… but God told me that my next husband is a GREAT husband. I decided that I would believed God for his promises that I am a woman who believes, and I am woman who loves much. I have faith that God would bless me with a good husband and a marriage that will be used for his Glory and his purpose.

Working While I Wait

Right now I serve at church as a Usher. I am rebuilding myself, and molding myself into a woman of God. But I also started running again, and taking better care of my body. I have lost 134 pounds so far. In 2022 when I got on the scale I was a whopping 354 pounds after the baby. In October 2024 I was 223. So I am very close to my goal . But I made the decision that I wanted to live and be healthy. Also, I decided to lose more weight to prepare my body for birthing again. I did not want to become pregnant at 354 pounds because that would have pushed me to 400 pounds. Below is a picture of me at 354 pounds.

Now because I was in The Marines, the 354 was really sold. It was not loose fat. So I am grateful for that. But I just don’t like having stretch marks and roles. I used to be really against getting cosmetic surgery to have extra skin removed, but what I will say is now if you lose weight and have to have the skin removed for health reasons that do what is best. I have to get my knees realigned and right now I am looking for a specialist. In case you did not know getting very big can mess your knees up very badly. So right now even though I have stretch marks and what not I am still trying to get my body back to what I looked like before pregnancy. But what I will say is that black women , do not eat so much fastfood while pregnant. I ate a lot of Chipotle, Popeye’s, and Chick Fil A and I got to 354. So just watch how much fast food you consume.

Love Yall,

Precious-Diamond Sandre’a Chessier, Usher

Why A Handsome Black Man Should Never Beg Another Man For Financial Help

Proverbs 28:19-23 NLT

A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty. The trustworthy person will get a rich reward, but a person who wants quick riches will get into trouble. Showing partiality is never good, yet some will do wrong for a mere piece of bread. Greedy people try to get rich quick but don’t realize they’re headed for poverty. In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.

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I want to tell a true story that really happened . So before I made the decision to file for divorce from my disgusting ex-husband , who allegedly got hit by a truck . But like after he got hit he mysteriously was able to go cheat with a woman he worked with a Waffle House because he believed he was getting 1.2 million dollars for a car accident that was really his fault and yes he did NOT get 1.2 million . So , my ex-husband named Ra’keem , decides that instead of working he would rather go beg his white lawyer for food to bring home to his black family (mind you this lawyer was one of the biggest lawyers in Greenville , North Carolina ) so that he could have more time to cheat with some bum female … because apparently me telling him to work two jobs to pay rent was to much for him as a man ( mind you I was working five jobs just to make ends meet because of the recession and being disabled … the disabled money was NOT enough to feed my daughter especially when you add rent , car note, car insurance , health insurance , food , clothes , electricity money , and basic needs). Now … when I found out that Ra’keem was constantly facing eviction and unable to pay rent on time and would rather stand outside the Tobacco shop in Greenville , North Carolina and beg other men for cigarettes and money instead of working I remembered those beautiful words that God said “do not marry Ra’keem” three years and the night before I said I do to Ra’keem . So …. I realized that I had a stronger work ethic than Ra’keem . But also Ra’keem REFUSED to watch my daughter Ruth , because it was getting in the way of his time to go sleep and cheat with the Waffle House worker AND he lied about getting promoted to manager , come to find out Ra’keem had not been to work in almost two weeks so he LIED and was begging and sleeping with another woman while I was at home trying to take care of my daughter and wondering where he was (because you know cheaters don’t answer the phone they just disappear for all hours of the day )….. So…. I was reading a article about how a rapper (who I personally do NOT like ) openly begged two white men for help to pay off his billion dollar debt . Then it clicked ! Like … that’s a serious issue . Do black men realize how bad that looks when his wife has to watch him beg another man for money to provide for his family ? Now because I made the BAD decision to marry this man , I have to start all over and fix my finances because of what he did. I have to continue paying for everything for myself while he can walk around freely stealing clothes from stores , getting high , and cheating with some idiot he met at Waffle House . But what does mommy have to do ? Mommy has to raise her daughter and love her despite what happened . So black men …. Do NOT do what my ex-husband did. Be a real man and work to provide for your family . Do not beg another man for a handout and don’t accept money from another man unless it’s business oriented. You do not understand how much your influence means to your family . Black man do better than my ex-husband .
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Now personally , I know that I will get married again . I love dark men , I LOVE dark men and brown men . I love when a man works hard and when he is a real man and he is serious about his business . I love when a man moves in silence and works in silence . I like when a man is a business man . I like a man who is a BOSS , not an employee but a BOSS (I mean you were an employee at one point and then you graduated into having your own business ) . I love when a black man is educated (even if it is a honorary degree that’s still smart ! ) , I love when a man doesn’t listen to his friends drama and does not let his friends disrespect his woman , and I LOVE THUGS ! So , I believe that there is a good man out there , right now I’m just focused on parenting .

Love ,

Queen Diamond