Category: Complaining

I Want To Discuss The Topic Of Abuse

Isaiah 54:17New King James Version

17 No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
And every tongue which rises against you in judgment
You shall condemn.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
And their righteousness is from Me,”
Says the Lord.

As you all know I am divorcing a man who was very abusive to me financially , emotionally, and sometimes physically. Yet , I realized while doing therapy that I made that bad decision because of my childhood and not healing properly from it . Which is sadly common that people who were abused tend to go to an abuser in a relationship until they heal from what happened. Yet , while I looked online I saw something so disturbing and I won’t say there name but I will say it was disturbing . I saw a picture that a man made his wife cover her face in a leather mask , a bathing suit , and made her make him a sandwich and then posted a picture of it . One could only imagine what goes on behind the camera. Yet , in the midst of seeing that God said to me , “you couldn’t imagine what I am sparing you from and this is nothing compared to what is to come “. Sadly , because of social media abusive relationships are looking trendy because of a picture when in actuality it’s sick and sadistic . Abuse is never okay . People should not have to live with constant violence and chaos . I have had to learn that it’s better to be alone then be with a abuser . In my own situation I had to make the decision to ignore the church folk that told me to stay and instead follow Jesus instead . People of God and even people who are just coming across my blog , a man making a woman wear a leather mask in the house and nothing but a bathing suit , in heels to make him a sandwich is abuse and it is not normal and that is not art … it’s abuse .

Let Us Get Healthy & Whole ,

Queen Diamond

Diamond Chessier

Why A Handsome Black Man Should Never Beg Another Man For Financial Help

Proverbs 28:19-23 NLT

A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty. The trustworthy person will get a rich reward, but a person who wants quick riches will get into trouble. Showing partiality is never good, yet some will do wrong for a mere piece of bread. Greedy people try to get rich quick but don’t realize they’re headed for poverty. In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.

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I want to tell a true story that really happened . So before I made the decision to file for divorce from my disgusting ex-husband , who allegedly got hit by a truck . But like after he got hit he mysteriously was able to go cheat with a woman he worked with a Waffle House because he believed he was getting 1.2 million dollars for a car accident that was really his fault and yes he did NOT get 1.2 million . So , my ex-husband named Ra’keem , decides that instead of working he would rather go beg his white lawyer for food to bring home to his black family (mind you this lawyer was one of the biggest lawyers in Greenville , North Carolina ) so that he could have more time to cheat with some bum female … because apparently me telling him to work two jobs to pay rent was to much for him as a man ( mind you I was working five jobs just to make ends meet because of the recession and being disabled … the disabled money was NOT enough to feed my daughter especially when you add rent , car note, car insurance , health insurance , food , clothes , electricity money , and basic needs). Now … when I found out that Ra’keem was constantly facing eviction and unable to pay rent on time and would rather stand outside the Tobacco shop in Greenville , North Carolina and beg other men for cigarettes and money instead of working I remembered those beautiful words that God said “do not marry Ra’keem” three years and the night before I said I do to Ra’keem . So …. I realized that I had a stronger work ethic than Ra’keem . But also Ra’keem REFUSED to watch my daughter Ruth , because it was getting in the way of his time to go sleep and cheat with the Waffle House worker AND he lied about getting promoted to manager , come to find out Ra’keem had not been to work in almost two weeks so he LIED and was begging and sleeping with another woman while I was at home trying to take care of my daughter and wondering where he was (because you know cheaters don’t answer the phone they just disappear for all hours of the day )….. So…. I was reading a article about how a rapper (who I personally do NOT like ) openly begged two white men for help to pay off his billion dollar debt . Then it clicked ! Like … that’s a serious issue . Do black men realize how bad that looks when his wife has to watch him beg another man for money to provide for his family ? Now because I made the BAD decision to marry this man , I have to start all over and fix my finances because of what he did. I have to continue paying for everything for myself while he can walk around freely stealing clothes from stores , getting high , and cheating with some idiot he met at Waffle House . But what does mommy have to do ? Mommy has to raise her daughter and love her despite what happened . So black men …. Do NOT do what my ex-husband did. Be a real man and work to provide for your family . Do not beg another man for a handout and don’t accept money from another man unless it’s business oriented. You do not understand how much your influence means to your family . Black man do better than my ex-husband .
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Now personally , I know that I will get married again . I love dark men , I LOVE dark men and brown men . I love when a man works hard and when he is a real man and he is serious about his business . I love when a man moves in silence and works in silence . I like when a man is a business man . I like a man who is a BOSS , not an employee but a BOSS (I mean you were an employee at one point and then you graduated into having your own business ) . I love when a black man is educated (even if it is a honorary degree that’s still smart ! ) , I love when a man doesn’t listen to his friends drama and does not let his friends disrespect his woman , and I LOVE THUGS ! So , I believe that there is a good man out there , right now I’m just focused on parenting .

Love ,

Queen Diamond

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There IS NO other Tupac

So , in my mind Tupac is my baby daddy and I have his child , he buys me diamonds and jewels , tells me I’m his main chick , and reads the Bible … buuutttt then I watch his I get around video and realize that my baby daddy Tupac can’t be tied down and he sleeps around so I probably have to look for a new Gansta boo very soon to spare my beautiful heart 🙃 but until then I have to state that there is NO female Tupac and there is no other Tupac . Now , I speak on the behalf of Tupacs fans that we are very tired of your disrespecting my baby daddy .

1 – Tupac is NOT gay and he is not bisexual so the people who STOLE his estate needs to stop lying on my man 🙃 if you wanna be gay then go to hell and be gay BUT stop lying on MY MAN and releasing gay clothes in MY MAN name . Thanks lying hoes .

2 – CAN’T NONE of these female rappers rap like my man so stop comparing them CAUSE THERE AINT NO comparison . All they do is hold they legs open and rap so men buy they’re songs … MY MAN HAS TALENT and they DO NOT !

3 – As his first gospel singing baby muva, I speak on behalf of his fans saying we are reaaaaalllyyyyyy tired of you lying on our FAV rapper . JUST STAWP IT !! We tired of you faking on him because he ain’t say nothing . Stop lying on MY man .

4 – I’m getting really tired of you talking about my man teeth and his nose ! FIRST of all I adore my man teeth and his nose , you jealous heifers !

So as I close , no I am not Tupac’s literally baby moms but oh yes how I wish I was and as a fan I can dream can’t I ? Just saying I make pretty babies . So I shoot my shot with fine black millionaire that’s raps? I’m just talking . Matter of fact . I honestly don’t know how I’m going to get a new husband because like my next man gunna see that I was crushing on 2pac 😩 but that’s tea ☕️

I Said WHAT I Said ,

Queen Diamond

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I am officially done with ministry

I am officially done with ministry. 

A few years ago I felt like God had chosen me to be in ministry even though I hated it with all my heart. Lately, I have been doing the bare minimum just so God will leave me alone and stop afflicting  me.  But after making a terrible decision to marry my husband and dealing with the stupidity that comes with the church I made the decision that I am done with ministry. It’s not worth it. I’m not doing it and I do not care if someone else is a void filler because I refuse to preach. So, do not worry everyone, no I am not off the deep end, I just do not care anymore and I am done. 

Seriously, 

Diamond 

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