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The Truth About Divorce As A Single Black Mom

God Is Not Going To Bless Them

Galatians 6:7-9

King James Version 7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

God Is Not Blessing Them 

As I was faced with the very real truth about divorce and all that I have gone through I realized that my marriage cannot be revived. Today God was speaking to me about my love life and the men I have dated in the past and the Lord said, “let them go”. Yes. God told me to let ALL of them go. I realized that because I have become more well known that I have dealt with jealousy and cruelty to a whole new level. I realized that the racism I dealt with mixed with the constant bad decisions that my husband makes has caused me to accept that I am done. 

As a single mother, I realized that my husband’s constant bad decisions have severely impacted my daughter and I and I are done. No more back and forth , I am getting a divorce. I do not understand how my soon to be ex-husband could make such bad decisions and then somehow try to play the victim and say he hates himself for what he did to me. The thing is every relationship does not end because of infidelity. My soon to be ex-husband did not cheat but he is a compulsive liar. He lies about everything, he will look me in my face and lie and then get upset that I do not believe his lie and continue to lie. But the lying has gotten so bad that he has put my daughter and I  in severe danger more than once. He takes better care of his other daughter than mine and then gets angry when I address it. He has done everything he can to stop me from working to earn my own money. He has lied and caused me to be in legal battles that were not my own, and thankfully I have had victory over them. Yet, what God has told me is, “get ready to go”. Yes, God told me to leave him. 

God helped me to see that the provision that my soon to be ex-husband currently has is only to provide for Ruth and I. God made me see that this generation of men must reap what they have sown. The things that this generation of men do is plain evil and it is wrong. I look forward to the day of my divorce. Being married to him was a nightmare. I gave him a house filled with love and peace and he can vouch for that which is why he doesn’t want a divorce. He keeps pushing back the date and he looks shocked when I say we’re getting a divorce. My ex-husband and I were married in New Bern, North Carolina. In North Carolina the rules for divorce are very complicated. Both people have to prove that they were not with each other for

1 year before they can legally file for divorce. We have both agreed that I will have full sole custody of her and he does not pay child support that is the deal. 

But honestly, God TOLD me not to marry him. I will never forget that day I got married I had a dream the night before God said , “Don’t do it ! Don’t marry him” ! So because I married God told me that he was going to show who he really is. Yes he did and I want out. Marrying him was a mistake. I have never seen a man like him. For a man to make bad decisions that cause a domino effect on his family and be only concerned about a coke head’s problems ? Yeah.. I’m good. Lesson learned. 

As a black woman I understand that self-worth must be taught. As a black woman who is becoming a single mother I am very disgusted by what happened in my marriage. He told me he hates himself for what he did to me and he does because I was truly a good wife. I do not have time for the influence of women to constantly cause him to make terrible decisions. 

Someone who is a bad decision maker can and will be the end of a marriage and end of a family. Because those bad decisions lead to serious consequences. As I am walking on water, I accept that this marriage was a mistake. Like I have told him the only good thing I got from it was my daughter. 

Every Birthday for me and my daughter he has ruined, yet he expects everyone to hurdle around his other child and Ruth and I are not doing it. I told my daughter the other day she is no one’s embarrassment and she is no one’s back up plan. I will NOT teach my daughter to allow any man to give her bread crumbs and not even her father. He already knows that his family is NOT allowed to see Ruth and it is because of their drug usage. 

As a single mother, I have had to learn some valuable lessons about obedience. Everything I worked for he tore down. As a dating mom, I realize that a reason I do not think I will be quick to date again is because it is terrible being married to someone who will ruin everything you worked for. For my husband to ruin what I worked for is a different level of pain. This man is not some bum I met on the street, this is my husband. I do not know if I will be able to trust another man right away because I cannot allow a man to cause me to lose what I worked for. Mentally, emotionally, and physically I am done with this marriage and my daughter and I are moving on. I refuse to date anyone from my past because I will NOT allow another irresponsible man to put my daughter and I at risk of losing everything again. In this situation I was NOT chasing a man, this was my HUSBAND , a man that I did business with… I am DONE. I am done. 

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Feeling Like You’ll Never Get Married As A Prophet

Mark 10:9New International Version

9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

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Truth :

All my life I had dreams that always came to pass . God always tells me what is going to happen before it does … matter of fact before I got arrested in New Bern I told my husband that God has already told me I was about to be arrested for being a Christian (it happened right before pride month they were trying to stop me from having a church during pride month ) . Exactly as I said it happened I was lied on , slandered , framed , they even brought fake documents to court of stuff that didn’t happen to frame me . Yet God is faithful . This took a huge toll on my marriage as well . I wanted a divorce I was so angry at my husband for what he did because I’m really careful with my life .
I talked to God and I told him the truth … as a prophet as a female it’s almost impossible to have a husband . As a female prophet it gets hard I mean I even had someone that I was involved with make fun of me and call me a nun , which of course isn’t true . He hasn’t seen me In years and everywhere I go people tell me I am beautiful woman ( without me asking I might add) . I have been proposed to 8 times , but none of them wanted to fulfill the role of being married to a female prophetess . It’s hard and it’s not easy. Because the men want a raunchy woman who poses naked for the entire world to see … but then she sleeps around and takes his money to spend on another man . It’s not easy . Or maybe for a male prophet , you feel like you’re alone because you can’t find a good woman or a woman who understands that you are set apart and that you don’t really have a choice but to be a holy. Luke 18:27 tells us that what is impossible for man is possible for God . It may feel like as female prophetess it’s impossible for you to have a husband but you will . It may feel like as male prophet it’s impossible for you have a wife but you will . & you will have one suddenly. So stay in there . Marriage is NOT easy . But having someone to keep you warm at night is a good feeling . My husband has been trying really hard to earn my forgiveness for what he did . We have been making beautiful memories and preparing to have another baby . I had to learn to be content and happy with what I had . I had to learn NOT to be down because of the rejection I suffered . I realized that the love my daughter and husband provides covers the pain of rejection . I still miss my other baby , but sadly I had to move on as God is preparing to gift me with another baby to ease my pain . Understand that your pains and loneliness is leading for you to have a spouse that does indeed love you .

Sincerely Mrs. Diamond Chessier ,

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I Kind Of Don’t Care Anymore

John 16:33New International Version

33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcomethe world.” – John 16:33

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Ya’ll I’m getting older . In three years I will be 30 and I have to face the fact about a lot in my life . I realize that I don’t really care anymore . In 2023, I went through a straight wilderness and baby no one was there for me . People showed there true colors . I thought people cared , nah they didn’t . They saw my success and could have cared less that I was down. I made the decision that 2023 was the last year I would care or help someone , who doesn’t care or help me . I realized that in order to be happy , I have to let go of people who want me to help them but don’t want me to succeed. Did you see that ? There are people who want you to tell them they are special and that they are chosen , but they don’t want you to be special and chosen . Baby let it go . In 2024 , we’re claiming peace , serenity , and tranquility. No more unblocking people who blocked you . No more checking in on people . No more hoping people change . No more encouraging people who are praying and hoping for your downfall . Move on and move on in a important way .

God got you honey ,

Diamond

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Daily Bread

Genesis 5New International Version

From Adam to Noah

5 This is the written account(A) of Adam’s family line.(B)

When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God.(C) 2 He created them(D) male and female(E) and blessed them. And he named them “Mankind”[a] when they were created.

3 When Adam had lived 130 years, he had a son in his own likeness, in his own image;(F) and he named him Seth.(G) 4 After Seth was born, Adam lived 800 years and had other sons and daughters.5 Altogether, Adam lived a total of 930 years, and then he died.(H)

6 When Seth had lived 105 years, he became the father[b] of Enosh.(I) 7 After he became the father of Enosh, Seth lived 807 years and had other sons and daughters. 8 Altogether, Seth lived a total of 912 years, and then he died.

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