Tag: Relationships

Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

“Do two people start traveling together without arranging to meet?” – Amos 3:3 GNT

          So, not going to lie my love life has not gone the way that I wanted too lately. I have had a rough journey in dating and I feel like lately God wants me to wait on his timing for a spouse. But as a single black woman, I have had a problem with dating cotton picking fools. Men who are extremely lazy, don’t work, don’t shower, momma’s boys, and so many other problems with them. So, because of my bad dating habits, I have been left broken and dealing with a lot of crap. So I made a announcement that the next man I date have to:

  • Be rich, handsome, and fight like (Floyd Mayweather Jr.)
  • Be rich and  handsome like Chris Brown
  • Be rich like Prince William

I absolutely refuse to date anymore broke men and I am not working with them to uplift them anymore. Growing up I never saw good relationships and I always watched women do stupid things because of men. So I was in high school dating grown men behind closed doors.

          But because of that I got into a bunch of terrible and bad relationships. I didn’t have “love” as a child and so I was just going from boyfriend to boyfriend. Well one day life got really serious because I became pregnant, and though I had money I was now dealing with a man (my ex-husband Ra’keem) who was jealous of me, and he was willing to do anything and everything to destroy me.

          So, in 2023 I lost my home, was evicted with (a child), lived in 4 different states, and then moved back to Chicago for a season. I learned the consequences of dating men who are irresponsible and cannot provide a house and home as a man. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with being single, but being in a relationship with the wrong person can lead to danger and disaster.

          I made the decision that for a season that I was going to take a long break from dating and get my life together. I made the decision that fixing my credit score, buying a car, buying a house, and working to fix and restore my career is way more important than dating a man right now. I think in church there is so many teachings on courting, but they are not telling you how bad the dating scene is right now in the Christian world right now.

          Don’t marry someone just because someone in the church say’s to. Get married to someone who is equally yoked to you in responsibility. Also, women do not marry any man that you have more money then. If you have more money than a man he will never be happy for you. Some men hide things under the rug and they wait until you get married to show you how evil, jealous, and envious of you. When a man is jealous of you because he can’t lead you financially – he will do everything that he can to destroy you.

          Even in the process of trying to lose weight, I was dealing with the men I was dating who was not happy for me and would try to argue with me about going to the gym to better myself. As a woman never try to make a man see your point of view if he is jealous of you because you already lost the battle. That is a mental issue that he has if he does not want you to go to the gym to better yourself as a woman. You need to believe God that he will send someone who will have high standards like you, and that he will surely bring someone that will encourage you to push someone to Christ. I know that they say “don’t be unequally yoked to an unbeliever” – but you have to understand a lot of men in the church are secretly gay. So if you have to marry a man who is not saved and you have to lead him to salvation remember 1 Peter 3:4 , “Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight”.

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Instead Consumed By Purpose

Prayer Applications

“You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name”. – John 15:16 New Living Translation

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When Filling Out A Job Application

          When you take time out of your day to advance your career and fill out job applications, you get emails that say that your job application corresponds to the requirement for the job. Then you get an email and phone calls that ask you to come in for an interview, and then you are hired.

          That is the reality of being an adult that you have to remain employed so that you can afford to take care of yourself (especially if you are a parent). I really wanted to write this for black women, because I am a black woman. For the last 2 years I have been in a wilderness and I learned a hard lesson being a black woman. To God be the glory. However, I have learned that as a black woman you cannot allow a man (even if he is black) to lead you down the wrong path as a woman.

          Whether it is with your weight or appearance, as a black woman you have to do better and achieve and achieve better. You can’t chase a man down a rabbit hole of failure just to have his attention. Instead focus on you and bettering yourself to fulfill the purpose that God has placed on the inside of you.

          So even if you are experiencing backlash, you still have to press forward and overcome how you feel. Instead crying over some fool, and eating your sorrow away – fill out a job application so that you can into something better for your life. Don’t waste all your data and cell phones minutes, crying over some loser.. Instead get ready and prepare yourself because a member of the recruiting team is getting ready to call you and ask you to come in for a job interview. Or instead chasing some fool who wants to be pacified and babied, why don’t you chase the purpose that God has for you. Why don’t you call the job and ask to speak to the hiring manager, and follow up on your job application – and schedule a time to come in for a interview.

          Moral of the story, I wrote this for black women because I feel like black women want more and compare themselves to other ethnicities , but you have to make better decisions like the other ethnicities. You have to want something better for yourself. You have to make the decision that you will not be consumed by a man, but instead consumed by purpose.

Sincerely,

Minister Precious-Diamond S. Chessier

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A Successful Rushed Wedding ( Marriage Ceremony)

Psalm 23:5New International Version5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.

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The Wedding Season Is Upon Us

Marriage is a beautiful thing. But what happens when a rushed wedding is taking place ?! To be honest God doesn’t need a church for you to get married. You can go right to the court house and have a small marriage ceremony and say your vows and love happily ever after. Sometimes ego gets in the way of people in the church and causes them not to move in the proper timing that God asked them to do. But know that God waits for no man , and if God has approved of you being married well then get married !

A rushed wedding can still be a blessed wedding, you can go down to the court house and stand before the magistrate and say your wedding vows and BOOM , now you are married ! Next thing you know you’re on your honeymoon somewhere else living happily ever after.

Social Media

I say this because people are getting married withing the month of knowing each other. But why ? It’s the sign of the times.. The Bible says it’s better to marry than to burn with passion. Key word BURN ( STD). It is better to be in a protected marriage covenant , than to be walking around horny and infected !

With that being said , you can look on social media and see people are getting married and it’s by the leading of the Holy Spirit . There are deadly diseases mutation and right now the hub of it is in Texas.

Enjoy Your Rushed Wedding

Take time and enjoy your rushed wedding. Live a happy life after .. Move on with your life and be happy in a all circumstances. In regard to your living situation, there is nothing wrong with living with your husband’s mother ( in peace ). If your husband ask his mother if you all can live with her and she says yes because grateful and accept the blessing that God has given you.

Also, the word of God says not the overwise lest you destroy. If you want to be married , well put yourself in position to be married. Like spend your lunch break with your boyfriend , and have a great conversation. Do your part and you will be blessed

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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The Business Move of Marriage

Ecclesiastes 7:16-17New King James Version16 Do not be overly righteous,Nor be overly wise:Why should you destroy yourself?17 Do not be overly wicked,Nor be foolish:Why should you die before your time?

What Is Marriage ?

Marriage is a decision between a man and a woman to come together in unison and love to become husband and wife ? But can marriage be a business move ? Absolutely yes. Ecclesiastes says that two can stand against persecution together. But it’s not good for someone to be alone. With that being said , in marriage a union can be used as a business move to advance yourself.

Two people with income coming in makes it easier to buy a house , and afford a life that you want. Also , now there is something going on with buying a car that you need a co-signer , and it’s best to get the person you are married to co-sign that car.

Be Smart When Getting Married

When you think of marriage , be smart .. How can this person benefit you ? You have to team up and work together to achieve your desired result. What you want could take 20 years , but if you get married it could happen overnight. You have to be smart in your decision making and understanding the benefits of marriage.

Now some of you say what about love ? Baby love can leave you broke and homeless with no money , and wishing you had made a better decision. Love is just a “feeling”, and it does fade and if youre not careful it can indeed turn into serious hatred. Love is not enough to pay bills and provide a life for yourself. Yes love is a benefit , but you have to be business minded when it comes to your money and well being .Some call it a contract marriages – getting married for money while I’m the military.. but I call it being smart to achieve something that you want in a quickest amount of time.

Minister Precious – Diamond Chessier

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Engaged On The First Date

Ecclesiastes 11:4Living Bible

4 If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.[a]

Micro-Dating

What is Micro-Dating ? Well in a world of economic turmoil that is happening world-wide , but particularly in the USA – people rarely have time to sit down and go on a date because of money , time , and finances. Many people find themselves having to juggle and balance hold 2-4 jobs at a time – which leaves a small amount of time to recall fully “date”. But you can “micro-date”. But how ? Well a quick date , immediately after work such as ;

  • Grabbing a cup of coffee from Starbucks immediately in the morning after your work shift – This gives you 1 hours to actually get to know your interest and ask a few questions about who they are and what do they like to do.. This can range from $2 – $30 micro date , which is quick , easy , and affordable !
  • Getting a quick bite to eat at Krispy Kreme Doughnuts – This makes you like urban and shows your love interest that you’re not super religious and that you are someone that they can talk to and ultimately get to know in the long run . This micro – date can range from $5 – $50, and you can sit there and enjoy a cup of coffee and get to know each other ..
  • Going on a walk and using it as a time to exercise together ! A walk is absolutely free of charge , and it can be a good idea for a picnic to sit down and talk and open up to each other . Why don’t you grab a blanket , some fruit , or some food that your significant other likes and take time to enjoy each other presence !

Taking time to enjoy micro dating , can lead to bigger dating and actually going a wonderful more expensive dates that can become actually engagement proposal . Dates like :

  • Dinner on a yacht ( boat )!
  • A boat tour of the city
  • A fun date like the arcade

There are so many great ideas that you could think of. Also, bring boyfriend/ girlfriend to church and introduce them to the faith of Christ !

The moral of the story is , the word of God says that faith without works is dead. If you want a spouse , then you need to do your part and actually date someone and get to know them so that you can become husband and wife !

  • John 3:16

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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Black Woman Make Sure

  • Ezekiel 2:5-7

Lately , I have been posting but I just be honest . I have been angry because of what I went through. I say this to say black woman make sure your husband is not gay. I have been praying and God told me that I have to change my anger into passion. When I was pregnant , my soon to be ex-husband told me he was gay and that is why he married his ex-wife April. I tried to be there because he told me that his mother had allowed him to be sexually abused by men when he was younger. I tried to help him through his sexuality issues because I knew he had been molested . Woman …. That man set me up and made a a deal with the police because I found messages in his Facebook of him flirting with another male preacher . I walked in on him masturbating to men videos that were old white men while they were preaching. I walked in on him wearing my clothes ( I guess he wanted to wear my clothes to get attention ). Then woman , he got jealous of all the attention men were giving me and wanted to fight me because men wanted me and not him. Black woman , MAKE SURE . Make sure that your husband is not gay , do NOT try to help him if he confessed and blames it on his childhood .

A Strong Black Woman,

Apostle Precious-Diamond

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