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Public Marriage Is Government

Public Marriage Is Government

What Does The Bible Say?

               As you all know I have been very public about the things that I have gone through being a public figure and facing divorce from my ex-husband Ra’keem. I learned a hard lesson that “public marriage is government”. I studied the Royal Marriages Act and it helped me to see better and understand better. The word of God says not to be unequally yoked. Many times people take that and use it only for the spiritual realm. No – do not be unequally yoked in business dealings, work ethic, physical strength, and even your mentality. Being with someone who is not “used” to having a better life caused me to deal with someone who almost tore down everything I worked for all because of a “iPad”.

               I believe in Joshua 24:15. I believe that the image of a black family is husband and wife. Everyone black does not agree with me and I’m fine with that. Trust I am not losing any sleep over people who do not agree with me. But as I look at the listings of women online I realize that many of them will never become good wives. The art of being a wife and mother is gone to due the over sexualization of women.

               As a woman I had to relocate back to Chicago in order to get my business dealings back in order. However, I know that this is for a season. Though I am involved in Real Estate dealings in Chicago – I would have to travel here often. Yet, again Chicago is for a season. But while being in Chicago I see the poor productivity being produced in the black home and it’s sad and sickening. The black parents are not producing “effective citizens” in there homes , but instead are producing people that steal , kill , and destroy.

A Better Reward

               All I can do is be obedient. All I can do is release what God told me to do. All I can do is teach blacks how to make the right decisions. Sadly, the old saying goes “you can lead the horse to the water, but you can’t make it drink”. Being in Chicago has opened my eyes to the sad reality in the black community – that though God can give them something better … They don’t want better.

               As someone who is black – I would say be very careful when marrying. It is kind of difficult to teach and preach against racism when there is so much ignorance within the black community itself. But what is disappointing is the aspect of marriage. You have to be careful because marriage will get the devil foothold to destroy everything you have worked for if you are married to the wrong person – and I sadly learned that the hard way.

               If you desire to get married know that that is a major step. Check their credit score, go to therapy, and really investigate to see who that person is. You want to marry someone who is honest and keeps their word.

Conclusion

               Marriage is a serious decision, and you must be wise. Be careful when getting married. I pray that you are truly put into a position to enjoy your life. But I pray that you make a wise decision on who to marry. Do not covet and wish you had someone else’s marriage because you don’t know what is going on in their home.

Minister Precious-Diamond S. Chessier (Kelly)

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Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

“Do two people start traveling together without arranging to meet?” – Amos 3:3 GNT

          So, not going to lie my love life has not gone the way that I wanted too lately. I have had a rough journey in dating and I feel like lately God wants me to wait on his timing for a spouse. But as a single black woman, I have had a problem with dating cotton picking fools. Men who are extremely lazy, don’t work, don’t shower, momma’s boys, and so many other problems with them. So, because of my bad dating habits, I have been left broken and dealing with a lot of crap. So I made a announcement that the next man I date have to:

  • Be rich, handsome, and fight like (Floyd Mayweather Jr.)
  • Be rich and  handsome like Chris Brown
  • Be rich like Prince William

I absolutely refuse to date anymore broke men and I am not working with them to uplift them anymore. Growing up I never saw good relationships and I always watched women do stupid things because of men. So I was in high school dating grown men behind closed doors.

          But because of that I got into a bunch of terrible and bad relationships. I didn’t have “love” as a child and so I was just going from boyfriend to boyfriend. Well one day life got really serious because I became pregnant, and though I had money I was now dealing with a man (my ex-husband Ra’keem) who was jealous of me, and he was willing to do anything and everything to destroy me.

          So, in 2023 I lost my home, was evicted with (a child), lived in 4 different states, and then moved back to Chicago for a season. I learned the consequences of dating men who are irresponsible and cannot provide a house and home as a man. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with being single, but being in a relationship with the wrong person can lead to danger and disaster.

          I made the decision that for a season that I was going to take a long break from dating and get my life together. I made the decision that fixing my credit score, buying a car, buying a house, and working to fix and restore my career is way more important than dating a man right now. I think in church there is so many teachings on courting, but they are not telling you how bad the dating scene is right now in the Christian world right now.

          Don’t marry someone just because someone in the church say’s to. Get married to someone who is equally yoked to you in responsibility. Also, women do not marry any man that you have more money then. If you have more money than a man he will never be happy for you. Some men hide things under the rug and they wait until you get married to show you how evil, jealous, and envious of you. When a man is jealous of you because he can’t lead you financially – he will do everything that he can to destroy you.

          Even in the process of trying to lose weight, I was dealing with the men I was dating who was not happy for me and would try to argue with me about going to the gym to better myself. As a woman never try to make a man see your point of view if he is jealous of you because you already lost the battle. That is a mental issue that he has if he does not want you to go to the gym to better yourself as a woman. You need to believe God that he will send someone who will have high standards like you, and that he will surely bring someone that will encourage you to push someone to Christ. I know that they say “don’t be unequally yoked to an unbeliever” – but you have to understand a lot of men in the church are secretly gay. So if you have to marry a man who is not saved and you have to lead him to salvation remember 1 Peter 3:4 , “Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight”.

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A Successful Rushed Wedding ( Marriage Ceremony)

Psalm 23:5New International Version5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.

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The Wedding Season Is Upon Us

Marriage is a beautiful thing. But what happens when a rushed wedding is taking place ?! To be honest God doesn’t need a church for you to get married. You can go right to the court house and have a small marriage ceremony and say your vows and love happily ever after. Sometimes ego gets in the way of people in the church and causes them not to move in the proper timing that God asked them to do. But know that God waits for no man , and if God has approved of you being married well then get married !

A rushed wedding can still be a blessed wedding, you can go down to the court house and stand before the magistrate and say your wedding vows and BOOM , now you are married ! Next thing you know you’re on your honeymoon somewhere else living happily ever after.

Social Media

I say this because people are getting married withing the month of knowing each other. But why ? It’s the sign of the times.. The Bible says it’s better to marry than to burn with passion. Key word BURN ( STD). It is better to be in a protected marriage covenant , than to be walking around horny and infected !

With that being said , you can look on social media and see people are getting married and it’s by the leading of the Holy Spirit . There are deadly diseases mutation and right now the hub of it is in Texas.

Enjoy Your Rushed Wedding

Take time and enjoy your rushed wedding. Live a happy life after .. Move on with your life and be happy in a all circumstances. In regard to your living situation, there is nothing wrong with living with your husband’s mother ( in peace ). If your husband ask his mother if you all can live with her and she says yes because grateful and accept the blessing that God has given you.

Also, the word of God says not the overwise lest you destroy. If you want to be married , well put yourself in position to be married. Like spend your lunch break with your boyfriend , and have a great conversation. Do your part and you will be blessed

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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The Business Move of Marriage

Ecclesiastes 7:16-17New King James Version16 Do not be overly righteous,Nor be overly wise:Why should you destroy yourself?17 Do not be overly wicked,Nor be foolish:Why should you die before your time?

What Is Marriage ?

Marriage is a decision between a man and a woman to come together in unison and love to become husband and wife ? But can marriage be a business move ? Absolutely yes. Ecclesiastes says that two can stand against persecution together. But it’s not good for someone to be alone. With that being said , in marriage a union can be used as a business move to advance yourself.

Two people with income coming in makes it easier to buy a house , and afford a life that you want. Also , now there is something going on with buying a car that you need a co-signer , and it’s best to get the person you are married to co-sign that car.

Be Smart When Getting Married

When you think of marriage , be smart .. How can this person benefit you ? You have to team up and work together to achieve your desired result. What you want could take 20 years , but if you get married it could happen overnight. You have to be smart in your decision making and understanding the benefits of marriage.

Now some of you say what about love ? Baby love can leave you broke and homeless with no money , and wishing you had made a better decision. Love is just a “feeling”, and it does fade and if youre not careful it can indeed turn into serious hatred. Love is not enough to pay bills and provide a life for yourself. Yes love is a benefit , but you have to be business minded when it comes to your money and well being .Some call it a contract marriages – getting married for money while I’m the military.. but I call it being smart to achieve something that you want in a quickest amount of time.

Minister Precious – Diamond Chessier

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Kingdom Marriages Loading…

Matthew 19:5-7Expanded Bible

5 And God said, ‘So a man will leave his father and mother and be ·united with [joined to] his wife, and the two will become ·one body [as though they were one person; T one flesh; Gen. 2:24].’ 6 So they are no longer two, but one. God has joined the two together, so no one should separate them.”

While Working

I was doing research and found so many amazing pictures of marriage. I found black Marriages. I found interracial marriages. I found Jewish marriages and they were great pictures. But while I was looking at pictures God told me to believe him for something great in my love life. I must admit, right now I am in the midst of divorce… but God told me that my next husband is a GREAT husband. I decided that I would believed God for his promises that I am a woman who believes, and I am woman who loves much. I have faith that God would bless me with a good husband and a marriage that will be used for his Glory and his purpose.

Working While I Wait

Right now I serve at church as a Usher. I am rebuilding myself, and molding myself into a woman of God. But I also started running again, and taking better care of my body. I have lost 134 pounds so far. In 2022 when I got on the scale I was a whopping 354 pounds after the baby. In October 2024 I was 223. So I am very close to my goal . But I made the decision that I wanted to live and be healthy. Also, I decided to lose more weight to prepare my body for birthing again. I did not want to become pregnant at 354 pounds because that would have pushed me to 400 pounds. Below is a picture of me at 354 pounds.

Now because I was in The Marines, the 354 was really sold. It was not loose fat. So I am grateful for that. But I just don’t like having stretch marks and roles. I used to be really against getting cosmetic surgery to have extra skin removed, but what I will say is now if you lose weight and have to have the skin removed for health reasons that do what is best. I have to get my knees realigned and right now I am looking for a specialist. In case you did not know getting very big can mess your knees up very badly. So right now even though I have stretch marks and what not I am still trying to get my body back to what I looked like before pregnancy. But what I will say is that black women , do not eat so much fastfood while pregnant. I ate a lot of Chipotle, Popeye’s, and Chick Fil A and I got to 354. So just watch how much fast food you consume.

Love Yall,

Precious-Diamond Sandre’a Chessier, Usher

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Waiting On God For Your Miracle

Isaiah 40:31King James Version

31 But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

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Today as I left church I had alot on my mind and many questions . I didn’t feel like singing in church because I had so many burdens . I didn’t feel like smiling because I had so much going on . But God said to me keep going . I remember when God told me not to marry my ex -husband Ra’keem and as I am faced with the consequences of his bad decisions all I can do is trust God for my next miracle .
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The church teaches so much on marriage but somebody needs to teach on when NOT to marry someone . Everyone is NOT marriage material and some people you just need to stay away from . I really pray that if you are considering marriage that you listen to that still small voice that says not to marry someone and to wait on your spouse instead because you have no idea what God is sparing you from .

Sincerely,

Apostle Diamond

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