Tag: Love

Why A Handsome Black Man Should Never Beg Another Man For Financial Help

Proverbs 28:19-23 NLT

A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty. The trustworthy person will get a rich reward, but a person who wants quick riches will get into trouble. Showing partiality is never good, yet some will do wrong for a mere piece of bread. Greedy people try to get rich quick but don’t realize they’re headed for poverty. In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.

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I want to tell a true story that really happened . So before I made the decision to file for divorce from my disgusting ex-husband , who allegedly got hit by a truck . But like after he got hit he mysteriously was able to go cheat with a woman he worked with a Waffle House because he believed he was getting 1.2 million dollars for a car accident that was really his fault and yes he did NOT get 1.2 million . So , my ex-husband named Ra’keem , decides that instead of working he would rather go beg his white lawyer for food to bring home to his black family (mind you this lawyer was one of the biggest lawyers in Greenville , North Carolina ) so that he could have more time to cheat with some bum female … because apparently me telling him to work two jobs to pay rent was to much for him as a man ( mind you I was working five jobs just to make ends meet because of the recession and being disabled … the disabled money was NOT enough to feed my daughter especially when you add rent , car note, car insurance , health insurance , food , clothes , electricity money , and basic needs). Now … when I found out that Ra’keem was constantly facing eviction and unable to pay rent on time and would rather stand outside the Tobacco shop in Greenville , North Carolina and beg other men for cigarettes and money instead of working I remembered those beautiful words that God said “do not marry Ra’keem” three years and the night before I said I do to Ra’keem . So …. I realized that I had a stronger work ethic than Ra’keem . But also Ra’keem REFUSED to watch my daughter Ruth , because it was getting in the way of his time to go sleep and cheat with the Waffle House worker AND he lied about getting promoted to manager , come to find out Ra’keem had not been to work in almost two weeks so he LIED and was begging and sleeping with another woman while I was at home trying to take care of my daughter and wondering where he was (because you know cheaters don’t answer the phone they just disappear for all hours of the day )….. So…. I was reading a article about how a rapper (who I personally do NOT like ) openly begged two white men for help to pay off his billion dollar debt . Then it clicked ! Like … that’s a serious issue . Do black men realize how bad that looks when his wife has to watch him beg another man for money to provide for his family ? Now because I made the BAD decision to marry this man , I have to start all over and fix my finances because of what he did. I have to continue paying for everything for myself while he can walk around freely stealing clothes from stores , getting high , and cheating with some idiot he met at Waffle House . But what does mommy have to do ? Mommy has to raise her daughter and love her despite what happened . So black men …. Do NOT do what my ex-husband did. Be a real man and work to provide for your family . Do not beg another man for a handout and don’t accept money from another man unless it’s business oriented. You do not understand how much your influence means to your family . Black man do better than my ex-husband .
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Now personally , I know that I will get married again . I love dark men , I LOVE dark men and brown men . I love when a man works hard and when he is a real man and he is serious about his business . I love when a man moves in silence and works in silence . I like when a man is a business man . I like a man who is a BOSS , not an employee but a BOSS (I mean you were an employee at one point and then you graduated into having your own business ) . I love when a black man is educated (even if it is a honorary degree that’s still smart ! ) , I love when a man doesn’t listen to his friends drama and does not let his friends disrespect his woman , and I LOVE THUGS ! So , I believe that there is a good man out there , right now I’m just focused on parenting .

Love ,

Queen Diamond

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Some Real Stuff I Learned About Life, Love, & Marriage

Hello everyone,

So as you all know I am getting a divorce and it has caused me to do alot of self-reflection. As a GROWN woman, I have been forced to learn alot about love and what I desire. Not only that I have learned alot about warning signs in a relationship and when to say no. So here are three tips that I learned so hopefully you do not make the same mistake that I did. Being my age at 27 years old and starting over has been a pain that I have never felt. It has caused me to accept that no one really has ever loved me in my past and it has caused me to see that I never really had a man to protect me. I never had a man that loved me and I never had a man that was worth anything. Over the years, the men that I dated were truly honestly nothing. Because of how they look other women might want them but they honestly repulse and disgust me because they are truly worthless. Not even venting just being truly honest. Because I understand alot and see alot , I watch as people who do not know God live these marvelous lives meanwhile as a woman who knows the bible my love life has been terrible in my past. I married a pastor and he was a disgusting, filthy, and worthless compulsive liar and not even worth being called my husband. I dated a man in the Marines and now that I look back he was so gross in his behavior, I do not know why I even went to a certain emotional bond with him. There alot of things that I realize and I just want to be alone for a long time so that I can heal in the proper manner.

1 – Do not ever date a man that lives with his mother. See I made that mistake. My ex-husband lived with his mother and he became weird like his mother and he started acting weird and ugly just like his mother. Do not EVER live with a man that cannot be man enough to be without his mother, especially if she was promiscuous when she was younger. My ex-husband mother was very promiscuous when she was younger and she lied about people sexually abusing her in her childhood. Constantly she let her boyfriends abuse my ex-husband, yet for some reason she constantly played the victim and she became jealous of me when I registered my business and went to college. So because I was in college , I was scoring so high that I had multiple scholarships and they jumped me and called the police on me because I was a veteran after I had my baby. Then she set me up… but the thing is so did Ra’keem. Ra’keem set me up also and started acting just like his mother, Tanya. That made me realize that a HUGE warning sign is NEVER live , engage, or marry a man that is that attached to his mother because he will betray you. His mother was sick in her head. Ra’keem and Tanya relationship was very inappropriate and very weird. Matter of fact they were working together to do shady stuff with their taxes and the IRS because he is a former accountant. Just saying, do not do it. Stay away from those type of men.

2 – Actually I am going to list five tips, do not date a man that has children . I am sorry woman of God, if you have children that is fine but if he has children DO NOT get involved this is why. You are the woman, so you control your home and your life. He is a man and he wants to be around his kids, his kids mother influence is going to try and attack your house with all it’s might. I had my own house, Ra’keem is dirty like his ex-wife and he is on drugs like his ex-wife. I am not on drugs and I am not dirty, so I had to divorce him. Their daughter (Ra’keem and his ex-wife) was the tunnel to his drug usage because of her influence through their daughter. Start fresh, and have a man that DOES NOT have kids. If he has kids with another woman he will tear down your house and everything that you worked for because his kids will go and complain as to why their mother does not have what you have and he will begin to resent you . So DO NOT DO IT .

3 – Girlll… get a man that tells the TRUTH no matter what over a man that LIES ! Girl, if you are dating a man and he honestly tells you that he is attracted to you but he is not ready to be in a committed relationship that is better than being with a man that lies and says that he is faithful and he is NOT ! It is better for a man to be honest and tell you the entire truth of who he is and what he is doing, than a man that lies and this is why. One, girl if he lies and says he is faithful and he is not he WILL get someone else pregnant behind your back and marry them and try to make you the side chick. Two, if he says he is faithful and he is not he WILL give you a sexually transmitted disease and have you in the hospital because he lied and said you were the only one just to have intimacy unprotected and he infected you. Three, Girl if he lies he will steal for that other woman and frame you for it. He will hate you because the other girl lets him do WHATEVER he wants and you ask questions he will turn on you and have another woman in your house and he will lie and tell everyone that he was the one faithful and you cheated (which is a lie), he will lie and say you gave him the diseases (which is a lie), and he will lie and tell everyone that your baby is not his (which is a lie).

4 – Girl the devil is in the church. Just because he is a pastor does not mean he is a good husband. Girl men who are pastors (modern day) have pornography addictions and problems, their unfaithful, and their compulsive liars. Most modern day pastors are perverts and they cannot control themselves. They listen to other women over their wives and do some of the most hurtful things to their wives and girl that is white and black and hispanic pastors. Do NOT date a Pastor.

5 – Girl keep your instagram on private and do not tell anyone when you start dating a new man. Keep everyone out your business. Girl, if he send his friends to come get you reject him because his friends will be his downfall. He needs to be a man and meet you and talk to you like a man. If he wants you then he needs to meet you face to face, and get him tested ! I do not care, be honest about your status and you do not lie either and get him tested to make sure that he does not have any sexually transmitted diseases. Do not be irresponsible with your body and do not date a man that is irresponsible with his body. DO NOT date a man that meets women online and sleeps with them. DO NOT date a man that meets women on dating apps like plenty of fish or tinder and sleeps with them, he could give you HIV/AIDS or HERPES or Something else. Do not do it !

6 – Girl I got to keep going. DO NOT DATE A MAN THAT YOU HAVE MORE MONEY, INFLUENCE, OR WORK HARDER THAN ! Girrrrrrrrrrrrllllllllllllllaaaaaaaa heeeeeeeedddddd my warning ! Do not date a man you have more money, more influence, or work harder than because he WILL try to destroy everything that you worked for and he WILL beat you. You need a man that has more money than you because then he will not be jealous of you and try to destroy everything that you worked for. You need a man that has more influence than you so he can manage you and protect your influence and your destiny, and you need a man that works harder than you so that when you have a baby your body can heal the proper way. I did not get a chance for my stomach to heal after I had a baby so I had a pregnant pouch for almost three years. So I do not want you to go through something that bad , because that really was hard to deal with. So you need a man that works harder than you so when you have a baby you can take some time off and your body recover without you worrying about bills and formula and other things.

7 – Celibacy. If you had a man that you had a child with, it is best for you to be celibate until the child is 18 years old. This is why. I am sorry to tell you this but these men are so evil, you do not want to lose the love of your life because your ex was jealous of your new relationship and accused you of doing something with him that put your child in danger, because if that happens then the man that you love has every right to leave you and that is not sin because he has to protect himself from accusations. So it is best to just raise the children and focus on being a good mother, and wait on God and then God will give you a man who is like a Chief because you were holy when you waited.

I know I said I do not want a husband, but I do want to be married. But I understand the burden I have to carry. So yes, I believe in God for a new husband but I am going to wait and focus on doing ministry while I parent and raise my child.

Queen Diamond

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I Wan’t Another Baby

So , as everyone knows I’m getting a divorce and I really want another baby . I prayed and I was honestly looking at donor banks because I couldn’t find a man to reproduce with . I do not want a relationship but I do wan’t another baby. Before you judge no I’m not a crazy baby mom’s I’m actually a really good baby mother . Matter of fact my ex-husband still demanding more kids from me and I’m NOT having more with him , but with someone else .

  • The reason I don’t want a relationship is because I accepted that because people know who I am , really raunchy women do everything they can to get a man to cheat . See raunchy women thrive off of making a man unfaithful to a good woman . So I just made the decision that I want the baby and she can keep the man . Just give me the baby .
  • I guess cause I’m getting older I have this desire to birth . I’m actually really resenting ministry because one I don’t wan’t to do ministry and I do not want to pursue ministry instead of having more children . That’s my opinion .
  • Now I am one of those people who God makes do ministry . Do I want to ? Absolutely not . I rather be doing something else . But I know that God MAKES me do ministry and I do not want to .
  • I might get pregnant out of wedlock while pastoring . Hey look ! I said it here first . My divorce proves that I was right about marriage . Marriage is stupid and pointless . I been said that . So when in tried the marriage thing I was proven right that marriage is stupid and not worth it , I was right .
  • So yes I want a baby . Hopefully I have one soon , if it doesn’t happen by a certain time I’m just going to go to a donor bank and have one .

Queen Diamond

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I Realize That Some Older Black Women Can’t Stand Young Black Women & I Got Time For It

So , although I discuss the ignorance that comes with living in AmeriKKKah , I have to address that some older black women are absolutely ignorant and they target younger black women to appease a different race . Now , this is NOT all older black women but you have to call it for what it is . To watch an older black woman be rude and nasty to a young black woman but turn around and kiss the butt of a white person, I begin to wonder have the older generation of blacks truly been delivered from the Jim Crow Era and the answer is some of these gray hair mustaches having women have not . I just saw a black woman the other day and she got a full beard 🧔‍♀️ and I can guarantee you she can’t stand another black woman . I don’t know who told you former Jim Crow women to be rude to the younger black women but that mess is stupid . Stop hating and start uplifting . It’s look absolutely terrible to see an another black woman attack another black woman but cater to a white person . That shows that you’re bound and you’re wrong and not the younger black woman . Get saved and delivered older black woman , wax your mustache, and let Jesus save your soul. Amen .

Queen Diamond

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Genesis 5New International Version

From Adam to Noah

5 This is the written account(A) of Adam’s family line.(B)

When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God.(C) 2 He created them(D) male and female(E) and blessed them. And he named them “Mankind”[a] when they were created.

3 When Adam had lived 130 years, he had a son in his own likeness, in his own image;(F) and he named him Seth.(G) 4 After Seth was born, Adam lived 800 years and had other sons and daughters.5 Altogether, Adam lived a total of 930 years, and then he died.(H)

6 When Seth had lived 105 years, he became the father[b] of Enosh.(I) 7 After he became the father of Enosh, Seth lived 807 years and had other sons and daughters. 8 Altogether, Seth lived a total of 912 years, and then he died.

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Daily Bread

Genesis 3New International Version

The Fall

3 Now the serpent(A) was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?(B)”

2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,(C) 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”(D)

4 “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman.(E) 5 “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God,(F) knowing good and evil.”

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