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Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

“Do two people start traveling together without arranging to meet?” – Amos 3:3 GNT

          So, not going to lie my love life has not gone the way that I wanted too lately. I have had a rough journey in dating and I feel like lately God wants me to wait on his timing for a spouse. But as a single black woman, I have had a problem with dating cotton picking fools. Men who are extremely lazy, don’t work, don’t shower, momma’s boys, and so many other problems with them. So, because of my bad dating habits, I have been left broken and dealing with a lot of crap. So I made a announcement that the next man I date have to:

  • Be rich, handsome, and fight like (Floyd Mayweather Jr.)
  • Be rich and  handsome like Chris Brown
  • Be rich like Prince William

I absolutely refuse to date anymore broke men and I am not working with them to uplift them anymore. Growing up I never saw good relationships and I always watched women do stupid things because of men. So I was in high school dating grown men behind closed doors.

          But because of that I got into a bunch of terrible and bad relationships. I didn’t have “love” as a child and so I was just going from boyfriend to boyfriend. Well one day life got really serious because I became pregnant, and though I had money I was now dealing with a man (my ex-husband Ra’keem) who was jealous of me, and he was willing to do anything and everything to destroy me.

          So, in 2023 I lost my home, was evicted with (a child), lived in 4 different states, and then moved back to Chicago for a season. I learned the consequences of dating men who are irresponsible and cannot provide a house and home as a man. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with being single, but being in a relationship with the wrong person can lead to danger and disaster.

          I made the decision that for a season that I was going to take a long break from dating and get my life together. I made the decision that fixing my credit score, buying a car, buying a house, and working to fix and restore my career is way more important than dating a man right now. I think in church there is so many teachings on courting, but they are not telling you how bad the dating scene is right now in the Christian world right now.

          Don’t marry someone just because someone in the church say’s to. Get married to someone who is equally yoked to you in responsibility. Also, women do not marry any man that you have more money then. If you have more money than a man he will never be happy for you. Some men hide things under the rug and they wait until you get married to show you how evil, jealous, and envious of you. When a man is jealous of you because he can’t lead you financially – he will do everything that he can to destroy you.

          Even in the process of trying to lose weight, I was dealing with the men I was dating who was not happy for me and would try to argue with me about going to the gym to better myself. As a woman never try to make a man see your point of view if he is jealous of you because you already lost the battle. That is a mental issue that he has if he does not want you to go to the gym to better yourself as a woman. You need to believe God that he will send someone who will have high standards like you, and that he will surely bring someone that will encourage you to push someone to Christ. I know that they say “don’t be unequally yoked to an unbeliever” – but you have to understand a lot of men in the church are secretly gay. So if you have to marry a man who is not saved and you have to lead him to salvation remember 1 Peter 3:4 , “Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight”.

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Instead Consumed By Purpose

Prayer Applications

“You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name”. – John 15:16 New Living Translation

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When Filling Out A Job Application

          When you take time out of your day to advance your career and fill out job applications, you get emails that say that your job application corresponds to the requirement for the job. Then you get an email and phone calls that ask you to come in for an interview, and then you are hired.

          That is the reality of being an adult that you have to remain employed so that you can afford to take care of yourself (especially if you are a parent). I really wanted to write this for black women, because I am a black woman. For the last 2 years I have been in a wilderness and I learned a hard lesson being a black woman. To God be the glory. However, I have learned that as a black woman you cannot allow a man (even if he is black) to lead you down the wrong path as a woman.

          Whether it is with your weight or appearance, as a black woman you have to do better and achieve and achieve better. You can’t chase a man down a rabbit hole of failure just to have his attention. Instead focus on you and bettering yourself to fulfill the purpose that God has placed on the inside of you.

          So even if you are experiencing backlash, you still have to press forward and overcome how you feel. Instead crying over some fool, and eating your sorrow away – fill out a job application so that you can into something better for your life. Don’t waste all your data and cell phones minutes, crying over some loser.. Instead get ready and prepare yourself because a member of the recruiting team is getting ready to call you and ask you to come in for a job interview. Or instead chasing some fool who wants to be pacified and babied, why don’t you chase the purpose that God has for you. Why don’t you call the job and ask to speak to the hiring manager, and follow up on your job application – and schedule a time to come in for a interview.

          Moral of the story, I wrote this for black women because I feel like black women want more and compare themselves to other ethnicities , but you have to make better decisions like the other ethnicities. You have to want something better for yourself. You have to make the decision that you will not be consumed by a man, but instead consumed by purpose.

Sincerely,

Minister Precious-Diamond S. Chessier

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A Black Woman’s Son Is Not Her Husband

A Black Woman’s Son Is Not Her Husband

Leviticus 18:7-17

Easy-to-Read Version

7 “You must never have sexual relations with your father or mother. She is your mother, so you must not have sexual relations with her. 8 You must not have sexual relations with your father’s wife, even if she is not your mother, because that is like having sexual relations with your father.9 “You must not have sexual relations with your sister. It doesn’t matter if she is the daughter of your father or your mother. And it doesn’t matter if your sister was born in your house or at some other place.10 “You must not have sexual relations with your granddaughter. It doesn’t matter whether she is the daughter of your son or the daughter of your daughter—they are all a part of you!11 “If your father and his wife have a daughter, she is your sister. You must not have sexual relations with her.12 “You must not have sexual relations with your father’s sister. She is your father’s close relative. 13 You must not have sexual relations with your mother’s sister. She is your mother’s close relative. 14 You must not have sexual relations with the wife of your father’s brother. You must not go near your uncle’s wife for sexual relations. She is your aunt.15 “You must not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law. She is your son’s wife, so you must not have sexual relations with her.16 “You must not have sexual relations with your brother’s wife. That would be like having sexual relations with your brother.17 “You must not have sexual relations with a mother and her daughter or her granddaughter. It doesn’t matter if this granddaughter is the daughter of this woman’s son or daughter. Her granddaughters are her close relatives. It is wrong to do this.

Pictures Say A lot

          When I look on social media I have seen some disturbing images of black mothers and their sons. I have seen black boys hugging their mothers and touching their butts and there posing as if they are in relationship with one another and its wrong. I want you to know that the word of God strictly prohibits this, but its severely common amongst black women.

          It is no secret that black families suffer the most, but it is also no secret that many black influencers are trying to present a better image for black families. But I do have to say something to these black women who are being extremely inappropriate with your son who is your own flesh and blood.

  • Your son is not attracted to you
  • Your son does not want to see your panties
  • Your son is not looking at you
  • Your son does not want to kiss you
  • Your son does not want to marry you

Young Black Men Need To Get Married and Have a Wife

          When a young black man finds a wife, his responsibility now is to his wife and their children, NOT the mother! As a mother you cant make his wife feel bad because he wants to spend time with her. This is not a competition, she is the wife and you as the mother is not the wife. Black women need not argue with there son’s girlfriend because he is becoming a man and preparing to become a husband. The word of God says a man shall leave his mother and cling with his WIFE (Genesis 2:24).

         The truth of the matter is a lot of black women are about to lose their relationships with there sons because of there inappropriate behavior. Another thing, as a black woman your son is not the replacement to his father because the father didn’t want you. Some black women will name the son after the father, kick the father out the picture, and then try to form a unusually affectionate relationship with the son (to make up for what went wrong with the father) and that is wrong. You are NOT his wife and you are NOT his girlfriend.

As A Black Mother

          As a black mother, if you know better you do better. You have to have boundaries with your children. As an older black woman you cant attack his wife, because you feel like you are being replaced.

One – Yes you are being replaced, because you are walking into a spot you are not supposed to be in. You are not supposed to be held in the honor of a wifely position with your son, and yes God is sending a wife quickly to get your son away from you because you are wrong. That is according to the Book of Leviticus.

Two – Your sons are not going to sympathize with you and they are not going to fall for your fake tears. Your son is going to choose his girlfriend or wife side, because YOU are inappropriate.

I grieve for the sake of black women, but I know that we will see a brighter day. But I have to address that. There is so many negative assumptions about black women and sadly many of it is true, but as a black woman (though I am mixed ethnicity) I feel like it is my job and due diligence to change the negative image of black motherhood into a positive image of black motherhood. Moral of the story, your son is not your husband. Stop bothering him and let him live with his wife and peace.

Minister Precious-Diamond Sandre’a Chessier

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A Successful Rushed Wedding ( Marriage Ceremony)

Psalm 23:5New International Version5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.

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The Wedding Season Is Upon Us

Marriage is a beautiful thing. But what happens when a rushed wedding is taking place ?! To be honest God doesn’t need a church for you to get married. You can go right to the court house and have a small marriage ceremony and say your vows and love happily ever after. Sometimes ego gets in the way of people in the church and causes them not to move in the proper timing that God asked them to do. But know that God waits for no man , and if God has approved of you being married well then get married !

A rushed wedding can still be a blessed wedding, you can go down to the court house and stand before the magistrate and say your wedding vows and BOOM , now you are married ! Next thing you know you’re on your honeymoon somewhere else living happily ever after.

Social Media

I say this because people are getting married withing the month of knowing each other. But why ? It’s the sign of the times.. The Bible says it’s better to marry than to burn with passion. Key word BURN ( STD). It is better to be in a protected marriage covenant , than to be walking around horny and infected !

With that being said , you can look on social media and see people are getting married and it’s by the leading of the Holy Spirit . There are deadly diseases mutation and right now the hub of it is in Texas.

Enjoy Your Rushed Wedding

Take time and enjoy your rushed wedding. Live a happy life after .. Move on with your life and be happy in a all circumstances. In regard to your living situation, there is nothing wrong with living with your husband’s mother ( in peace ). If your husband ask his mother if you all can live with her and she says yes because grateful and accept the blessing that God has given you.

Also, the word of God says not the overwise lest you destroy. If you want to be married , well put yourself in position to be married. Like spend your lunch break with your boyfriend , and have a great conversation. Do your part and you will be blessed

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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The Business Move of Marriage

Ecclesiastes 7:16-17New King James Version16 Do not be overly righteous,Nor be overly wise:Why should you destroy yourself?17 Do not be overly wicked,Nor be foolish:Why should you die before your time?

What Is Marriage ?

Marriage is a decision between a man and a woman to come together in unison and love to become husband and wife ? But can marriage be a business move ? Absolutely yes. Ecclesiastes says that two can stand against persecution together. But it’s not good for someone to be alone. With that being said , in marriage a union can be used as a business move to advance yourself.

Two people with income coming in makes it easier to buy a house , and afford a life that you want. Also , now there is something going on with buying a car that you need a co-signer , and it’s best to get the person you are married to co-sign that car.

Be Smart When Getting Married

When you think of marriage , be smart .. How can this person benefit you ? You have to team up and work together to achieve your desired result. What you want could take 20 years , but if you get married it could happen overnight. You have to be smart in your decision making and understanding the benefits of marriage.

Now some of you say what about love ? Baby love can leave you broke and homeless with no money , and wishing you had made a better decision. Love is just a “feeling”, and it does fade and if youre not careful it can indeed turn into serious hatred. Love is not enough to pay bills and provide a life for yourself. Yes love is a benefit , but you have to be business minded when it comes to your money and well being .Some call it a contract marriages – getting married for money while I’m the military.. but I call it being smart to achieve something that you want in a quickest amount of time.

Minister Precious – Diamond Chessier

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Posting Your Significant Other On Social Media

Psalm 45:2Living Bible

2 You are the fairest of all;

Your words are filled with grace;

God himself is blessing you forever.

Live Bravely

Don’t forget that God created Adam and Eve. The original intent for love was for man and woman. I think love should be celebrated and explored and welcomed as a great tool to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ.

But what about social media ? There are so many eyes out there all looking at your profile , but the word of God says through the Epistles of Timothy that God did not give us the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

If God has blessed you with a even a ounce of companionship don’t be afraid to post on social media what God has done for you. God has great plans. God is writing your love story right now. God is working things out for your good.

So today don’t live in fear , post that picture ( or that screenshot of that text message) , do something that shows that God original plan was of a man and a woman – and the blessing of the Lord will be on your life and on that situation.

Sincerly ,

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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