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January Blues

January Blues

               It is the first month of 2026 and my heart weeps as I see obituary’s all over the internet. So many young people have died and the truth of the matter is this is a perilous time right now. I am very real and honest. I can say that I am wrestling bout’s of depression.

               My daughter is autistic and she is beautiful, loving, kind, and amazing (Ruth). I can’t find a job that is willing  to work with the schedule of a single mother with a special needs child. I have to pay rent. People have betrayed me. People have lied on me. I am in a 3-year battle of getting a divorce. Needless to say I am tired , but I keep pressing on.

               I want you to know that if you have to take a week to just cry you are not being lazy. I think 2026 is my year to cry. I think that I just need to cry in order to release all of the pain that I have gone through over the last few years.

               So now I am not in ministry, but I do post biblical content. I had to step away for my mental health, peace, and sanity. I should have wished you a happy new year and I am sorry for the delay.

               Life has valley’s. the church needs to stop pretending and be real that there are valleys in life. I feel valley low. No I am not happy. No I am not okay. No I do not have family to help me. But I keep going. Sometimes I feel like a zombie because I know that I have to press on despite what people think. So, if 2026 is your year to cry welp join the club. Because this year is not peaches and cream. It is a lot of tough things going on and you are not alone.

Queen Diamond

Diploma in Small Business Management

Psalms 147:3

He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.

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Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

“Do two people start traveling together without arranging to meet?” – Amos 3:3 GNT

          So, not going to lie my love life has not gone the way that I wanted too lately. I have had a rough journey in dating and I feel like lately God wants me to wait on his timing for a spouse. But as a single black woman, I have had a problem with dating cotton picking fools. Men who are extremely lazy, don’t work, don’t shower, momma’s boys, and so many other problems with them. So, because of my bad dating habits, I have been left broken and dealing with a lot of crap. So I made a announcement that the next man I date have to:

  • Be rich, handsome, and fight like (Floyd Mayweather Jr.)
  • Be rich and  handsome like Chris Brown
  • Be rich like Prince William

I absolutely refuse to date anymore broke men and I am not working with them to uplift them anymore. Growing up I never saw good relationships and I always watched women do stupid things because of men. So I was in high school dating grown men behind closed doors.

          But because of that I got into a bunch of terrible and bad relationships. I didn’t have “love” as a child and so I was just going from boyfriend to boyfriend. Well one day life got really serious because I became pregnant, and though I had money I was now dealing with a man (my ex-husband Ra’keem) who was jealous of me, and he was willing to do anything and everything to destroy me.

          So, in 2023 I lost my home, was evicted with (a child), lived in 4 different states, and then moved back to Chicago for a season. I learned the consequences of dating men who are irresponsible and cannot provide a house and home as a man. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with being single, but being in a relationship with the wrong person can lead to danger and disaster.

          I made the decision that for a season that I was going to take a long break from dating and get my life together. I made the decision that fixing my credit score, buying a car, buying a house, and working to fix and restore my career is way more important than dating a man right now. I think in church there is so many teachings on courting, but they are not telling you how bad the dating scene is right now in the Christian world right now.

          Don’t marry someone just because someone in the church say’s to. Get married to someone who is equally yoked to you in responsibility. Also, women do not marry any man that you have more money then. If you have more money than a man he will never be happy for you. Some men hide things under the rug and they wait until you get married to show you how evil, jealous, and envious of you. When a man is jealous of you because he can’t lead you financially – he will do everything that he can to destroy you.

          Even in the process of trying to lose weight, I was dealing with the men I was dating who was not happy for me and would try to argue with me about going to the gym to better myself. As a woman never try to make a man see your point of view if he is jealous of you because you already lost the battle. That is a mental issue that he has if he does not want you to go to the gym to better yourself as a woman. You need to believe God that he will send someone who will have high standards like you, and that he will surely bring someone that will encourage you to push someone to Christ. I know that they say “don’t be unequally yoked to an unbeliever” – but you have to understand a lot of men in the church are secretly gay. So if you have to marry a man who is not saved and you have to lead him to salvation remember 1 Peter 3:4 , “Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight”.

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Instead Consumed By Purpose

Prayer Applications

“You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name”. – John 15:16 New Living Translation

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When Filling Out A Job Application

          When you take time out of your day to advance your career and fill out job applications, you get emails that say that your job application corresponds to the requirement for the job. Then you get an email and phone calls that ask you to come in for an interview, and then you are hired.

          That is the reality of being an adult that you have to remain employed so that you can afford to take care of yourself (especially if you are a parent). I really wanted to write this for black women, because I am a black woman. For the last 2 years I have been in a wilderness and I learned a hard lesson being a black woman. To God be the glory. However, I have learned that as a black woman you cannot allow a man (even if he is black) to lead you down the wrong path as a woman.

          Whether it is with your weight or appearance, as a black woman you have to do better and achieve and achieve better. You can’t chase a man down a rabbit hole of failure just to have his attention. Instead focus on you and bettering yourself to fulfill the purpose that God has placed on the inside of you.

          So even if you are experiencing backlash, you still have to press forward and overcome how you feel. Instead crying over some fool, and eating your sorrow away – fill out a job application so that you can into something better for your life. Don’t waste all your data and cell phones minutes, crying over some loser.. Instead get ready and prepare yourself because a member of the recruiting team is getting ready to call you and ask you to come in for a job interview. Or instead chasing some fool who wants to be pacified and babied, why don’t you chase the purpose that God has for you. Why don’t you call the job and ask to speak to the hiring manager, and follow up on your job application – and schedule a time to come in for a interview.

          Moral of the story, I wrote this for black women because I feel like black women want more and compare themselves to other ethnicities , but you have to make better decisions like the other ethnicities. You have to want something better for yourself. You have to make the decision that you will not be consumed by a man, but instead consumed by purpose.

Sincerely,

Minister Precious-Diamond S. Chessier

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Stay Right There

Psalm 105:15King James Version

15 Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.

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Being a single parent is not easy especially when already have a set schedule in place.. Sometimes you can feel a resistance in the spirit realm about your schedule , but now that God is the glue and binder to keep your schedule in place. For example ( my daughter Ruth) is enrolled in a private daycare and school. The recent hospital visit about her colon was totally unexpected but God is indeed a healer. So Ruth was approved to go back to school on Monday June 16, 2025 and she will be in daycare and continue daycare. As her mother yes , I loved her.. But resilience is the key. I have to work and provide. I don’t have time to lay in bed and cuddle all day because that’s a irresponsible parent. But because I am a responsible parent I know that the show must go on , and my baby girl ( Ruth ) has to go back to daycare on Monday.. So parents don’t feel bad about carrying on , you have to keep going and you have continue being a responsible parent.

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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Engaged On The First Date

Ecclesiastes 11:4Living Bible

4 If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.[a]

Micro-Dating

What is Micro-Dating ? Well in a world of economic turmoil that is happening world-wide , but particularly in the USA – people rarely have time to sit down and go on a date because of money , time , and finances. Many people find themselves having to juggle and balance hold 2-4 jobs at a time – which leaves a small amount of time to recall fully “date”. But you can “micro-date”. But how ? Well a quick date , immediately after work such as ;

  • Grabbing a cup of coffee from Starbucks immediately in the morning after your work shift – This gives you 1 hours to actually get to know your interest and ask a few questions about who they are and what do they like to do.. This can range from $2 – $30 micro date , which is quick , easy , and affordable !
  • Getting a quick bite to eat at Krispy Kreme Doughnuts – This makes you like urban and shows your love interest that you’re not super religious and that you are someone that they can talk to and ultimately get to know in the long run . This micro – date can range from $5 – $50, and you can sit there and enjoy a cup of coffee and get to know each other ..
  • Going on a walk and using it as a time to exercise together ! A walk is absolutely free of charge , and it can be a good idea for a picnic to sit down and talk and open up to each other . Why don’t you grab a blanket , some fruit , or some food that your significant other likes and take time to enjoy each other presence !

Taking time to enjoy micro dating , can lead to bigger dating and actually going a wonderful more expensive dates that can become actually engagement proposal . Dates like :

  • Dinner on a yacht ( boat )!
  • A boat tour of the city
  • A fun date like the arcade

There are so many great ideas that you could think of. Also, bring boyfriend/ girlfriend to church and introduce them to the faith of Christ !

The moral of the story is , the word of God says that faith without works is dead. If you want a spouse , then you need to do your part and actually date someone and get to know them so that you can become husband and wife !

  • John 3:16

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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What A Night It Has Been

Isaiah 54:17New King James Version

17 No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
And every tongue which rises against you in judgment
You shall condemn.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
And their righteousness is from Me,”
Says the Lord.

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Being a parent comes with unexpected hospital visits. On this episode of the ghetto parenting life chronicles, my ( daughter Ruth) had to be admitted. I believe God for supernatural healing. ( Ruth ) was very sick and throwing up . I say this because as a parent don’t automatically assume that throwing up is normal because it could be a sign that the child needs to go to the doctor.

Because we will be in the hospital for one week. Moral of the story don’t automatically assume that your child is being “extra”, “dramatic”, or “doing something for attention”. Something could really be wrong so get it checked out !

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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