Tag: Dating

Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

Do You Believe God For A Love Story?

“Do two people start traveling together without arranging to meet?” – Amos 3:3 GNT

          So, not going to lie my love life has not gone the way that I wanted too lately. I have had a rough journey in dating and I feel like lately God wants me to wait on his timing for a spouse. But as a single black woman, I have had a problem with dating cotton picking fools. Men who are extremely lazy, don’t work, don’t shower, momma’s boys, and so many other problems with them. So, because of my bad dating habits, I have been left broken and dealing with a lot of crap. So I made a announcement that the next man I date have to:

  • Be rich, handsome, and fight like (Floyd Mayweather Jr.)
  • Be rich and  handsome like Chris Brown
  • Be rich like Prince William

I absolutely refuse to date anymore broke men and I am not working with them to uplift them anymore. Growing up I never saw good relationships and I always watched women do stupid things because of men. So I was in high school dating grown men behind closed doors.

          But because of that I got into a bunch of terrible and bad relationships. I didn’t have “love” as a child and so I was just going from boyfriend to boyfriend. Well one day life got really serious because I became pregnant, and though I had money I was now dealing with a man (my ex-husband Ra’keem) who was jealous of me, and he was willing to do anything and everything to destroy me.

          So, in 2023 I lost my home, was evicted with (a child), lived in 4 different states, and then moved back to Chicago for a season. I learned the consequences of dating men who are irresponsible and cannot provide a house and home as a man. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with being single, but being in a relationship with the wrong person can lead to danger and disaster.

          I made the decision that for a season that I was going to take a long break from dating and get my life together. I made the decision that fixing my credit score, buying a car, buying a house, and working to fix and restore my career is way more important than dating a man right now. I think in church there is so many teachings on courting, but they are not telling you how bad the dating scene is right now in the Christian world right now.

          Don’t marry someone just because someone in the church say’s to. Get married to someone who is equally yoked to you in responsibility. Also, women do not marry any man that you have more money then. If you have more money than a man he will never be happy for you. Some men hide things under the rug and they wait until you get married to show you how evil, jealous, and envious of you. When a man is jealous of you because he can’t lead you financially – he will do everything that he can to destroy you.

          Even in the process of trying to lose weight, I was dealing with the men I was dating who was not happy for me and would try to argue with me about going to the gym to better myself. As a woman never try to make a man see your point of view if he is jealous of you because you already lost the battle. That is a mental issue that he has if he does not want you to go to the gym to better yourself as a woman. You need to believe God that he will send someone who will have high standards like you, and that he will surely bring someone that will encourage you to push someone to Christ. I know that they say “don’t be unequally yoked to an unbeliever” – but you have to understand a lot of men in the church are secretly gay. So if you have to marry a man who is not saved and you have to lead him to salvation remember 1 Peter 3:4 , “Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight”.

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Engaged On The First Date

Ecclesiastes 11:4Living Bible

4 If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.[a]

Micro-Dating

What is Micro-Dating ? Well in a world of economic turmoil that is happening world-wide , but particularly in the USA – people rarely have time to sit down and go on a date because of money , time , and finances. Many people find themselves having to juggle and balance hold 2-4 jobs at a time – which leaves a small amount of time to recall fully “date”. But you can “micro-date”. But how ? Well a quick date , immediately after work such as ;

  • Grabbing a cup of coffee from Starbucks immediately in the morning after your work shift – This gives you 1 hours to actually get to know your interest and ask a few questions about who they are and what do they like to do.. This can range from $2 – $30 micro date , which is quick , easy , and affordable !
  • Getting a quick bite to eat at Krispy Kreme Doughnuts – This makes you like urban and shows your love interest that you’re not super religious and that you are someone that they can talk to and ultimately get to know in the long run . This micro – date can range from $5 – $50, and you can sit there and enjoy a cup of coffee and get to know each other ..
  • Going on a walk and using it as a time to exercise together ! A walk is absolutely free of charge , and it can be a good idea for a picnic to sit down and talk and open up to each other . Why don’t you grab a blanket , some fruit , or some food that your significant other likes and take time to enjoy each other presence !

Taking time to enjoy micro dating , can lead to bigger dating and actually going a wonderful more expensive dates that can become actually engagement proposal . Dates like :

  • Dinner on a yacht ( boat )!
  • A boat tour of the city
  • A fun date like the arcade

There are so many great ideas that you could think of. Also, bring boyfriend/ girlfriend to church and introduce them to the faith of Christ !

The moral of the story is , the word of God says that faith without works is dead. If you want a spouse , then you need to do your part and actually date someone and get to know them so that you can become husband and wife !

  • John 3:16

Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier

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A Real Man Is Not Jealous Of His Woman

Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. – Genesis 2:22

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I realized that there is a serious epidemic of real men . A real man is not determined by his money but his morals . It seemed like the older generation of men understood the basics of being a man such as getting married , buying a house , having kids , and being a provider . Now , it is actually disturbing of the lack of real men . There was a time that men worked so hard that a woman could stay home and raise her children and produce good citizens , now because the men do not work and it forces a woman to provide there is a plague of lawless children because of the instability of a man .

  • A man should not be at home while the woman works . The Holy Bible says that if a man does not work then he does not eat . Normally , a woman was supposed to be at home raising the kids but now the men are not doing this . Yet , I believe that there are still real men out there that will stand for what is right in regard to being a man .
  • A real man never lets another man disrespect his woman . Men should not let other men confront or disrespect a woman . If a man acts like that , the he is not a real man he is a coward . Because I guarantee you he will not act like that towards a real man he will only do that towards women . Real men need to get back to protecting women and their womb’s because they birth there legacy .
  • A real man should not raise his children to disrespect their mother . Now , there are some trifling mothers but not all mothers are trifling . There are some half decent mothers that have gotten involved with men that tell their daughters to disrespect their mothers and that isn’t right . A real man will tell his daughter , that her mother is the adult and not her , and the mother is in charge and not the kids . That’s what a real man does.
  • A real man is honest . Real men don’t lie and they don’t let other women fight the woman that they love . A real man does not let another woman attack the woman that he loves and if he does have to use physical force to protect her then that’s what he will do , because that’s a real man .
  • A real man does not give his woman a sexually transmitted disease and then lie about it . Yes , a real man is clean about his sexuality. A real man does not hide his status and then infect another woman and then lie about it , that’s not a real man .
  • A real man doesn’t beg another man for a handout . A real man works to provide for his family and would never let his family starve due to his laziness and instability. A real man provides .

Those tips are the basics that the older generation understood and acted on . I pray that real men return and protect and provide the way that God originally had planned .

Love ,

Queen Diamond

Date : February 02,2024

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