I Didn’t Get To Heal

 I Didn’t Get To Heal 

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When I found I was pregnant I was very very shocked … because I was in a bad place . I didn’t expect to get pregnant because I never wanted to be married so , you know in Christian culture you have to be a wife and have kids and whatever … but I never wanted that . So when I found I was pregnant I was happy … but I really realized how totally broken I was. 

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It was hard watching everyone have a baby shower and be happy … I didn’t have any friends so I didn’t get that . I didn’t have family that loved me so I didn’t get to have a registry . I didn’t get to call and have someone check on me or really care about how I was doing . I celebrated her 1 month by myself with a ballon and a cake singing happy birthday to her . But tonight … I realized that maybe my ministry is for the woman who didn’t get to heal. Maybe my ministry is for the woman whose husband beat her after having the baby and is broken . Maybe my ministry is for the mother who had to work right after having a baby (like me ) because she had responsibilities and didn’t get to rest . Maybe my ministry is for the woman who was beaten 3 months after having a baby and felt empty and foolish . Maybe that’s who God has called me to . I was going through my phone and found this picture of me and my daughter . My eyeliner is gone on one eye because I was tired after working a night shift . She looks so much like me . As I watch her sleep I honestly beg God that she doesn’t have my story . That’s the hard part of being a mother . We clean houses , sweep floors , endure domestic violence while secretly wiping tears from our faces . We smile at church when our husband just hit us in the car . We suffer and give birth when men leave us at the hospital by ourselves . And yet … when our baby says “mommy I love you “ all that pain goes away because our children don’t know what we just went through to pay our bills . 

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I’ve accepted I’m not called to the pinky promise clan , that eat vegan and never have to worry about anything because there husbands just love them so much … nope … I’m called to that woman who was been beaten and choked while pregnant , I’m called to that woman who hated herself and cried herself to sleep every night while pregnant because her husband keeps staring at other women in public … I’m called to that woman who didn’t get a chance to heal after she had a baby because she had to pay bills … I pray for you because I pray for myself. God will provide and take care of you .

Sandre’a

Can You Nooootttt Do That While She’s Pregnant ?

Can You Be Faithful While She’s Pregnant ? 

Proverbs 31:30-31

New International Version

30 

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 

Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise(A) at the city gate.

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Truth be told there is a lot of pictures from a lot of different women on Instagram & social media . It seems like almost every woman knows how to thirst trap today . Honestly , you can’t go on Instagram without some woman posting something nasty & naked online causing & leading a man to stray . But there is one issue that has been really vexing my spirit and it’s the pain that a woman goes through while she’s pregnant . 

Genesis 3:16 – To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”

I don’t think men really understand how painful

pregnancy is … 

  1. Most times you feel fat & ugly because you don’t have the body you used to have that would cause your man to be attracted to you 
  2. Stretch marks are the devil 🙄 and they come at the most random of times 
  3. Our backs hurt , our hips hurt , and our hands are swollen it would be nice if you didn’t look at her unswollen body while she’s carrying your baby … thanks 😐
  4. Can you not try to hit her while she’s pregnant… that would be nice you jerk . 
  5. Yeah … staring at a naked woman on Instagram while she’s pregnant does hurt her feelings a lot … 
  6. Can you nooooottttt try to meet up with a woman you met online while she’s pregnant ? Thanks … insensitive bald headed crack head . 
  7. She only wants your money can you not give it to her while she’s pregnant ? Thanks … not really but thanks 🤨 
  8. Can you not have other women in your phone ? Can you not overly complement another pregnant woman while she’s pregnant? Can you not be inappropriate with another woman while she’s pregnant ?
  9. Can you not flirt with another woman while she’s pregnant … infront of her ? 
  10. Finally can you not let other women and men disrespect her while she’s pregnant ? 

Moral Of The Story …. 

Ain’t nobody gunna keep putting up with it … and she’s going to leave and that very woman you used to hurt her will backfire on you . Love is loving her beyond her body but even while she’s pregnant … be faithful . 

Love , 

Sandre’a 💕

SCRIPTURE OF THE DAY

Jeremiah 29:11-13 New International Version (NIV)

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

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cleanliness IS NEXT TO GODLINESS

The Jesus Letter – Daily Devotion

Hebrews 10:22 ESV

Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.

Real Life Real Jesus

Throughout the Bible God gives us great tools for creating a healthy family atmosphere for our children and our legacy. One of those amazing tools is maintaining a clean, peaceful, and godly environment in our homes. When your house is clean it provides a strong atmosphere for God to move. When your house is unclean it gives the devil room. Look at what the Bible says below.

King James Bible

And when the unclean spirit had torn him, and cried with a loud voice, he came out of him. – Mark 1:26

Today ask the Lord to clean up the messes in your life. Ask the Lord to come into your heart and clean your heart on the inside. In Jesus Name!

Prayer

Father in the name of Jesus, The word of God says in Psalms 51:2 , “Wash me clean from my guilt. Purify me from my sin.” Help me to maintain a clean house and peaceful environment for my family. Thank you Jesus for all you have done and dying on the cross for my sins. In Jesus Name, I pray. If sin should hinder this prayer, I repent and ask to be forgiven. In Jesus Name I pray. Thank God. Amen.

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