A Black Woman’s Son Is Not Her Husband

Leviticus 18:7-17

Easy-to-Read Version

7 “You must never have sexual relations with your father or mother. She is your mother, so you must not have sexual relations with her. 8 You must not have sexual relations with your father’s wife, even if she is not your mother, because that is like having sexual relations with your father.9 “You must not have sexual relations with your sister. It doesn’t matter if she is the daughter of your father or your mother. And it doesn’t matter if your sister was born in your house or at some other place.10 “You must not have sexual relations with your granddaughter. It doesn’t matter whether she is the daughter of your son or the daughter of your daughter—they are all a part of you!11 “If your father and his wife have a daughter, she is your sister. You must not have sexual relations with her.12 “You must not have sexual relations with your father’s sister. She is your father’s close relative. 13 You must not have sexual relations with your mother’s sister. She is your mother’s close relative. 14 You must not have sexual relations with the wife of your father’s brother. You must not go near your uncle’s wife for sexual relations. She is your aunt.15 “You must not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law. She is your son’s wife, so you must not have sexual relations with her.16 “You must not have sexual relations with your brother’s wife. That would be like having sexual relations with your brother.17 “You must not have sexual relations with a mother and her daughter or her granddaughter. It doesn’t matter if this granddaughter is the daughter of this woman’s son or daughter. Her granddaughters are her close relatives. It is wrong to do this.

Pictures Say A lot

          When I look on social media I have seen some disturbing images of black mothers and their sons. I have seen black boys hugging their mothers and touching their butts and there posing as if they are in relationship with one another and its wrong. I want you to know that the word of God strictly prohibits this, but its severely common amongst black women.

          It is no secret that black families suffer the most, but it is also no secret that many black influencers are trying to present a better image for black families. But I do have to say something to these black women who are being extremely inappropriate with your son who is your own flesh and blood.

• Your son is not attracted to you
• Your son does not want to see your panties
• Your son is not looking at you
• Your son does not want to kiss you
• Your son does not want to marry you

Young Black Men Need To Get Married and Have a Wife

          When a young black man finds a wife, his responsibility now is to his wife and their children, NOT the mother! As a mother you cant make his wife feel bad because he wants to spend time with her. This is not a competition, she is the wife and you as the mother is not the wife. Black women need not argue with there son’s girlfriend because he is becoming a man and preparing to become a husband. The word of God says a man shall leave his mother and cling with his WIFE (Genesis 2:24).

         The truth of the matter is a lot of black women are about to lose their relationships with there sons because of there inappropriate behavior. Another thing, as a black woman your son is not the replacement to his father because the father didn’t want you. Some black women will name the son after the father, kick the father out the picture, and then try to form a unusually affectionate relationship with the son (to make up for what went wrong with the father) and that is wrong. You are NOT his wife and you are NOT his girlfriend.

As A Black Mother

          As a black mother, if you know better you do better. You have to have boundaries with your children. As an older black woman you cant attack his wife, because you feel like you are being replaced.

One – Yes you are being replaced, because you are walking into a spot you are not supposed to be in. You are not supposed to be held in the honor of a wifely position with your son, and yes God is sending a wife quickly to get your son away from you because you are wrong. That is according to the Book of Leviticus.

Two – Your sons are not going to sympathize with you and they are not going to fall for your fake tears. Your son is going to choose his girlfriend or wife side, because YOU are inappropriate.

I grieve for the sake of black women, but I know that we will see a brighter day. But I have to address that. There is so many negative assumptions about black women and sadly many of it is true, but as a black woman (though I am mixed ethnicity) I feel like it is my job and due diligence to change the negative image of black motherhood into a positive image of black motherhood. Moral of the story, your son is not your husband. Stop bothering him and let him live with his wife and peace.

Minister Precious-Diamond Sandre’a Chessier