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I Want To Discuss The Topic Of Abuse

Isaiah 54:17New King James Version

17 No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
And every tongue which rises against you in judgment
You shall condemn.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
And their righteousness is from Me,”
Says the Lord.

As you all know I am divorcing a man who was very abusive to me financially , emotionally, and sometimes physically. Yet , I realized while doing therapy that I made that bad decision because of my childhood and not healing properly from it . Which is sadly common that people who were abused tend to go to an abuser in a relationship until they heal from what happened. Yet , while I looked online I saw something so disturbing and I won’t say there name but I will say it was disturbing . I saw a picture that a man made his wife cover her face in a leather mask , a bathing suit , and made her make him a sandwich and then posted a picture of it . One could only imagine what goes on behind the camera. Yet , in the midst of seeing that God said to me , “you couldn’t imagine what I am sparing you from and this is nothing compared to what is to come “. Sadly , because of social media abusive relationships are looking trendy because of a picture when in actuality it’s sick and sadistic . Abuse is never okay . People should not have to live with constant violence and chaos . I have had to learn that it’s better to be alone then be with a abuser . In my own situation I had to make the decision to ignore the church folk that told me to stay and instead follow Jesus instead . People of God and even people who are just coming across my blog , a man making a woman wear a leather mask in the house and nothing but a bathing suit , in heels to make him a sandwich is abuse and it is not normal and that is not art … it’s abuse .

Let Us Get Healthy & Whole ,

Queen Diamond

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Why A Handsome Black Man Should Never Beg Another Man For Financial Help

Proverbs 28:19-23 NLT

A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty. The trustworthy person will get a rich reward, but a person who wants quick riches will get into trouble. Showing partiality is never good, yet some will do wrong for a mere piece of bread. Greedy people try to get rich quick but don’t realize they’re headed for poverty. In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.

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I want to tell a true story that really happened . So before I made the decision to file for divorce from my disgusting ex-husband , who allegedly got hit by a truck . But like after he got hit he mysteriously was able to go cheat with a woman he worked with a Waffle House because he believed he was getting 1.2 million dollars for a car accident that was really his fault and yes he did NOT get 1.2 million . So , my ex-husband named Ra’keem , decides that instead of working he would rather go beg his white lawyer for food to bring home to his black family (mind you this lawyer was one of the biggest lawyers in Greenville , North Carolina ) so that he could have more time to cheat with some bum female … because apparently me telling him to work two jobs to pay rent was to much for him as a man ( mind you I was working five jobs just to make ends meet because of the recession and being disabled … the disabled money was NOT enough to feed my daughter especially when you add rent , car note, car insurance , health insurance , food , clothes , electricity money , and basic needs). Now … when I found out that Ra’keem was constantly facing eviction and unable to pay rent on time and would rather stand outside the Tobacco shop in Greenville , North Carolina and beg other men for cigarettes and money instead of working I remembered those beautiful words that God said “do not marry Ra’keem” three years and the night before I said I do to Ra’keem . So …. I realized that I had a stronger work ethic than Ra’keem . But also Ra’keem REFUSED to watch my daughter Ruth , because it was getting in the way of his time to go sleep and cheat with the Waffle House worker AND he lied about getting promoted to manager , come to find out Ra’keem had not been to work in almost two weeks so he LIED and was begging and sleeping with another woman while I was at home trying to take care of my daughter and wondering where he was (because you know cheaters don’t answer the phone they just disappear for all hours of the day )….. So…. I was reading a article about how a rapper (who I personally do NOT like ) openly begged two white men for help to pay off his billion dollar debt . Then it clicked ! Like … that’s a serious issue . Do black men realize how bad that looks when his wife has to watch him beg another man for money to provide for his family ? Now because I made the BAD decision to marry this man , I have to start all over and fix my finances because of what he did. I have to continue paying for everything for myself while he can walk around freely stealing clothes from stores , getting high , and cheating with some idiot he met at Waffle House . But what does mommy have to do ? Mommy has to raise her daughter and love her despite what happened . So black men …. Do NOT do what my ex-husband did. Be a real man and work to provide for your family . Do not beg another man for a handout and don’t accept money from another man unless it’s business oriented. You do not understand how much your influence means to your family . Black man do better than my ex-husband .
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Now personally , I know that I will get married again . I love dark men , I LOVE dark men and brown men . I love when a man works hard and when he is a real man and he is serious about his business . I love when a man moves in silence and works in silence . I like when a man is a business man . I like a man who is a BOSS , not an employee but a BOSS (I mean you were an employee at one point and then you graduated into having your own business ) . I love when a black man is educated (even if it is a honorary degree that’s still smart ! ) , I love when a man doesn’t listen to his friends drama and does not let his friends disrespect his woman , and I LOVE THUGS ! So , I believe that there is a good man out there , right now I’m just focused on parenting .

Love ,

Queen Diamond

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Some Real Stuff I Learned About Life, Love, & Marriage

Hello everyone,

So as you all know I am getting a divorce and it has caused me to do alot of self-reflection. As a GROWN woman, I have been forced to learn alot about love and what I desire. Not only that I have learned alot about warning signs in a relationship and when to say no. So here are three tips that I learned so hopefully you do not make the same mistake that I did. Being my age at 27 years old and starting over has been a pain that I have never felt. It has caused me to accept that no one really has ever loved me in my past and it has caused me to see that I never really had a man to protect me. I never had a man that loved me and I never had a man that was worth anything. Over the years, the men that I dated were truly honestly nothing. Because of how they look other women might want them but they honestly repulse and disgust me because they are truly worthless. Not even venting just being truly honest. Because I understand alot and see alot , I watch as people who do not know God live these marvelous lives meanwhile as a woman who knows the bible my love life has been terrible in my past. I married a pastor and he was a disgusting, filthy, and worthless compulsive liar and not even worth being called my husband. I dated a man in the Marines and now that I look back he was so gross in his behavior, I do not know why I even went to a certain emotional bond with him. There alot of things that I realize and I just want to be alone for a long time so that I can heal in the proper manner.

1 – Do not ever date a man that lives with his mother. See I made that mistake. My ex-husband lived with his mother and he became weird like his mother and he started acting weird and ugly just like his mother. Do not EVER live with a man that cannot be man enough to be without his mother, especially if she was promiscuous when she was younger. My ex-husband mother was very promiscuous when she was younger and she lied about people sexually abusing her in her childhood. Constantly she let her boyfriends abuse my ex-husband, yet for some reason she constantly played the victim and she became jealous of me when I registered my business and went to college. So because I was in college , I was scoring so high that I had multiple scholarships and they jumped me and called the police on me because I was a veteran after I had my baby. Then she set me up… but the thing is so did Ra’keem. Ra’keem set me up also and started acting just like his mother, Tanya. That made me realize that a HUGE warning sign is NEVER live , engage, or marry a man that is that attached to his mother because he will betray you. His mother was sick in her head. Ra’keem and Tanya relationship was very inappropriate and very weird. Matter of fact they were working together to do shady stuff with their taxes and the IRS because he is a former accountant. Just saying, do not do it. Stay away from those type of men.

2 – Actually I am going to list five tips, do not date a man that has children . I am sorry woman of God, if you have children that is fine but if he has children DO NOT get involved this is why. You are the woman, so you control your home and your life. He is a man and he wants to be around his kids, his kids mother influence is going to try and attack your house with all it’s might. I had my own house, Ra’keem is dirty like his ex-wife and he is on drugs like his ex-wife. I am not on drugs and I am not dirty, so I had to divorce him. Their daughter (Ra’keem and his ex-wife) was the tunnel to his drug usage because of her influence through their daughter. Start fresh, and have a man that DOES NOT have kids. If he has kids with another woman he will tear down your house and everything that you worked for because his kids will go and complain as to why their mother does not have what you have and he will begin to resent you . So DO NOT DO IT .

3 – Girlll… get a man that tells the TRUTH no matter what over a man that LIES ! Girl, if you are dating a man and he honestly tells you that he is attracted to you but he is not ready to be in a committed relationship that is better than being with a man that lies and says that he is faithful and he is NOT ! It is better for a man to be honest and tell you the entire truth of who he is and what he is doing, than a man that lies and this is why. One, girl if he lies and says he is faithful and he is not he WILL get someone else pregnant behind your back and marry them and try to make you the side chick. Two, if he says he is faithful and he is not he WILL give you a sexually transmitted disease and have you in the hospital because he lied and said you were the only one just to have intimacy unprotected and he infected you. Three, Girl if he lies he will steal for that other woman and frame you for it. He will hate you because the other girl lets him do WHATEVER he wants and you ask questions he will turn on you and have another woman in your house and he will lie and tell everyone that he was the one faithful and you cheated (which is a lie), he will lie and say you gave him the diseases (which is a lie), and he will lie and tell everyone that your baby is not his (which is a lie).

4 – Girl the devil is in the church. Just because he is a pastor does not mean he is a good husband. Girl men who are pastors (modern day) have pornography addictions and problems, their unfaithful, and their compulsive liars. Most modern day pastors are perverts and they cannot control themselves. They listen to other women over their wives and do some of the most hurtful things to their wives and girl that is white and black and hispanic pastors. Do NOT date a Pastor.

5 – Girl keep your instagram on private and do not tell anyone when you start dating a new man. Keep everyone out your business. Girl, if he send his friends to come get you reject him because his friends will be his downfall. He needs to be a man and meet you and talk to you like a man. If he wants you then he needs to meet you face to face, and get him tested ! I do not care, be honest about your status and you do not lie either and get him tested to make sure that he does not have any sexually transmitted diseases. Do not be irresponsible with your body and do not date a man that is irresponsible with his body. DO NOT date a man that meets women online and sleeps with them. DO NOT date a man that meets women on dating apps like plenty of fish or tinder and sleeps with them, he could give you HIV/AIDS or HERPES or Something else. Do not do it !

6 – Girl I got to keep going. DO NOT DATE A MAN THAT YOU HAVE MORE MONEY, INFLUENCE, OR WORK HARDER THAN ! Girrrrrrrrrrrrllllllllllllllaaaaaaaa heeeeeeeedddddd my warning ! Do not date a man you have more money, more influence, or work harder than because he WILL try to destroy everything that you worked for and he WILL beat you. You need a man that has more money than you because then he will not be jealous of you and try to destroy everything that you worked for. You need a man that has more influence than you so he can manage you and protect your influence and your destiny, and you need a man that works harder than you so that when you have a baby your body can heal the proper way. I did not get a chance for my stomach to heal after I had a baby so I had a pregnant pouch for almost three years. So I do not want you to go through something that bad , because that really was hard to deal with. So you need a man that works harder than you so when you have a baby you can take some time off and your body recover without you worrying about bills and formula and other things.

7 – Celibacy. If you had a man that you had a child with, it is best for you to be celibate until the child is 18 years old. This is why. I am sorry to tell you this but these men are so evil, you do not want to lose the love of your life because your ex was jealous of your new relationship and accused you of doing something with him that put your child in danger, because if that happens then the man that you love has every right to leave you and that is not sin because he has to protect himself from accusations. So it is best to just raise the children and focus on being a good mother, and wait on God and then God will give you a man who is like a Chief because you were holy when you waited.

I know I said I do not want a husband, but I do want to be married. But I understand the burden I have to carry. So yes, I believe in God for a new husband but I am going to wait and focus on doing ministry while I parent and raise my child.

Queen Diamond

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The Persecution That The God Of Jacob Revealed To Me That I , Diamond , Am About To Face.

  • Ezekiel 2:5-7

TODAY the Lord said these things to me , “ Release your persecution and put this in an article and release . In 1 year you will be persecuted for defending a black man who is a rapper , you will be told that you are not even fully black by racist Caucasian women on YouTube and on Instagram and on Facebook and on Twitter . In 1 year , racist white women are going to begin to say racist things about this rappers physically features as a black man and you will defend him against racism . You will be persecuted on google when you do and your name will be linked to a rappers name in hopes that if you are over exposed that your secrets will come out but there is no secret to be revealed because you live by The Holy Bible and practice what you preach . You will be persecuted for 5 years and slandered and told that the only reason a black man wants you is because you’re Colombian and you will be told that the only reason you have long hair is because you are mixed with white . Not only that you will be told online to go back to the strip club because that’s where your Colombian body belongs . Ignore them says the Lord , and do not argue with them because the police are watching and they will want to say that you are cyber bullying these racist Caucasian women who are going to do and say these things about you , because they are envious of your beauty because you are beautiful says the Lord , and the God of Jacob will protect you from being arrested says the Lord because of racism . You will become a staple and pillar in the black community as they watch you handle this persecution with grace , class , and elegance because you are being persecuted for being a black woman a voluptuous body that is elegant and feminine. Release this as I have given it to you and date it , says the The Lord Of Heaven’s Army “.

  • Queen Diamond
  • 1/01/2024

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January Monthly Devotion

Monthly Devotion 

January 1-31, 2024 – Daily Verse & Devotion – The Importance Of Your Testimony 

Revelation 12 : 1 -11

Revelation 12:1-11New International Version

The Woman and the Dragon

12 A great sign appeared in heaven: a woman clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet and a crown of twelve stars on her head. 2 She was pregnant and cried out in pain as she was about to give birth. 3 Then another sign appeared in heaven: an enormous red dragon with seven heads and ten horns and seven crowns on its heads. 4 Its tail swept a third of the stars out of the sky and flung them to the earth. The dragon stood in front of the woman who was about to give birth, so that it might devour her child the moment he was born. 5 She gave birth to a son, a male child, who “will rule all the nations with an iron scepter.”[a] And her child was snatched up to God and to his throne. 6 The woman fled into the wilderness to a place prepared for her by God, where she might be taken care of for 1,260 days.

7 Then war broke out in heaven. Michael and his angels fought against the dragon, and the dragon and his angels fought back. 8 But he was not strong enough, and they lost their place in heaven. 9 The great dragon was hurled down—that ancient serpent called the devil, or Satan, who leads the whole world astray. He was hurled to the earth, and his angels with him.

10 Then I heard a loud voice in heaven say:

“Now have come the salvation and the power
    and the kingdom of our God,
    and the authority of his Messiah.
For the accuser of our brothers and sisters,
    who accuses them before our God day and night,
    has been hurled down.
11 They triumphed over him
    by the blood of the Lamb
    and by the word of their testimony;
they did not love their lives so much
    as to shrink from death.

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Do You Understand Your Testimony? 

In life there are many difficult trials that you may encounter . Honestly , in 2023 I went through some of the toughest trials I have endured as an adult woman that led to the process of divorce . I didn’t want to share my testimony, yet God reminded me in the book of Esther that Queen Esther was warned by her uncle Mordecai that if she did not speak and do what God said then she would perish . Your testimony is keeping you from perishing . Understand that if God carried you through a storm , then it was meant that he would get glory in your testimony. Remember that . So today , do not be embarrassed about your testimony but instead share it so that other people can be encouraged and persuaded to follow Jesus . 

May The Lord Bless You , 

Apostle Diamond 

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The Truth About Divorce As A Single Black Mom

God Is Not Going To Bless Them

Galatians 6:7-9

King James Version 7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

God Is Not Blessing Them 

As I was faced with the very real truth about divorce and all that I have gone through I realized that my marriage cannot be revived. Today God was speaking to me about my love life and the men I have dated in the past and the Lord said, “let them go”. Yes. God told me to let ALL of them go. I realized that because I have become more well known that I have dealt with jealousy and cruelty to a whole new level. I realized that the racism I dealt with mixed with the constant bad decisions that my husband makes has caused me to accept that I am done. 

As a single mother, I realized that my husband’s constant bad decisions have severely impacted my daughter and I and I are done. No more back and forth , I am getting a divorce. I do not understand how my soon to be ex-husband could make such bad decisions and then somehow try to play the victim and say he hates himself for what he did to me. The thing is every relationship does not end because of infidelity. My soon to be ex-husband did not cheat but he is a compulsive liar. He lies about everything, he will look me in my face and lie and then get upset that I do not believe his lie and continue to lie. But the lying has gotten so bad that he has put my daughter and I  in severe danger more than once. He takes better care of his other daughter than mine and then gets angry when I address it. He has done everything he can to stop me from working to earn my own money. He has lied and caused me to be in legal battles that were not my own, and thankfully I have had victory over them. Yet, what God has told me is, “get ready to go”. Yes, God told me to leave him. 

God helped me to see that the provision that my soon to be ex-husband currently has is only to provide for Ruth and I. God made me see that this generation of men must reap what they have sown. The things that this generation of men do is plain evil and it is wrong. I look forward to the day of my divorce. Being married to him was a nightmare. I gave him a house filled with love and peace and he can vouch for that which is why he doesn’t want a divorce. He keeps pushing back the date and he looks shocked when I say we’re getting a divorce. My ex-husband and I were married in New Bern, North Carolina. In North Carolina the rules for divorce are very complicated. Both people have to prove that they were not with each other for

1 year before they can legally file for divorce. We have both agreed that I will have full sole custody of her and he does not pay child support that is the deal. 

But honestly, God TOLD me not to marry him. I will never forget that day I got married I had a dream the night before God said , “Don’t do it ! Don’t marry him” ! So because I married God told me that he was going to show who he really is. Yes he did and I want out. Marrying him was a mistake. I have never seen a man like him. For a man to make bad decisions that cause a domino effect on his family and be only concerned about a coke head’s problems ? Yeah.. I’m good. Lesson learned. 

As a black woman I understand that self-worth must be taught. As a black woman who is becoming a single mother I am very disgusted by what happened in my marriage. He told me he hates himself for what he did to me and he does because I was truly a good wife. I do not have time for the influence of women to constantly cause him to make terrible decisions. 

Someone who is a bad decision maker can and will be the end of a marriage and end of a family. Because those bad decisions lead to serious consequences. As I am walking on water, I accept that this marriage was a mistake. Like I have told him the only good thing I got from it was my daughter. 

Every Birthday for me and my daughter he has ruined, yet he expects everyone to hurdle around his other child and Ruth and I are not doing it. I told my daughter the other day she is no one’s embarrassment and she is no one’s back up plan. I will NOT teach my daughter to allow any man to give her bread crumbs and not even her father. He already knows that his family is NOT allowed to see Ruth and it is because of their drug usage. 

As a single mother, I have had to learn some valuable lessons about obedience. Everything I worked for he tore down. As a dating mom, I realize that a reason I do not think I will be quick to date again is because it is terrible being married to someone who will ruin everything you worked for. For my husband to ruin what I worked for is a different level of pain. This man is not some bum I met on the street, this is my husband. I do not know if I will be able to trust another man right away because I cannot allow a man to cause me to lose what I worked for. Mentally, emotionally, and physically I am done with this marriage and my daughter and I are moving on. I refuse to date anyone from my past because I will NOT allow another irresponsible man to put my daughter and I at risk of losing everything again. In this situation I was NOT chasing a man, this was my HUSBAND , a man that I did business with… I am DONE. I am done. 

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