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Some Real Stuff I Learned About Life, Love, & Marriage

Hello everyone,

So as you all know I am getting a divorce and it has caused me to do alot of self-reflection. As a GROWN woman, I have been forced to learn alot about love and what I desire. Not only that I have learned alot about warning signs in a relationship and when to say no. So here are three tips that I learned so hopefully you do not make the same mistake that I did. Being my age at 27 years old and starting over has been a pain that I have never felt. It has caused me to accept that no one really has ever loved me in my past and it has caused me to see that I never really had a man to protect me. I never had a man that loved me and I never had a man that was worth anything. Over the years, the men that I dated were truly honestly nothing. Because of how they look other women might want them but they honestly repulse and disgust me because they are truly worthless. Not even venting just being truly honest. Because I understand alot and see alot , I watch as people who do not know God live these marvelous lives meanwhile as a woman who knows the bible my love life has been terrible in my past. I married a pastor and he was a disgusting, filthy, and worthless compulsive liar and not even worth being called my husband. I dated a man in the Marines and now that I look back he was so gross in his behavior, I do not know why I even went to a certain emotional bond with him. There alot of things that I realize and I just want to be alone for a long time so that I can heal in the proper manner.

1 – Do not ever date a man that lives with his mother. See I made that mistake. My ex-husband lived with his mother and he became weird like his mother and he started acting weird and ugly just like his mother. Do not EVER live with a man that cannot be man enough to be without his mother, especially if she was promiscuous when she was younger. My ex-husband mother was very promiscuous when she was younger and she lied about people sexually abusing her in her childhood. Constantly she let her boyfriends abuse my ex-husband, yet for some reason she constantly played the victim and she became jealous of me when I registered my business and went to college. So because I was in college , I was scoring so high that I had multiple scholarships and they jumped me and called the police on me because I was a veteran after I had my baby. Then she set me up… but the thing is so did Ra’keem. Ra’keem set me up also and started acting just like his mother, Tanya. That made me realize that a HUGE warning sign is NEVER live , engage, or marry a man that is that attached to his mother because he will betray you. His mother was sick in her head. Ra’keem and Tanya relationship was very inappropriate and very weird. Matter of fact they were working together to do shady stuff with their taxes and the IRS because he is a former accountant. Just saying, do not do it. Stay away from those type of men.

2 – Actually I am going to list five tips, do not date a man that has children . I am sorry woman of God, if you have children that is fine but if he has children DO NOT get involved this is why. You are the woman, so you control your home and your life. He is a man and he wants to be around his kids, his kids mother influence is going to try and attack your house with all it’s might. I had my own house, Ra’keem is dirty like his ex-wife and he is on drugs like his ex-wife. I am not on drugs and I am not dirty, so I had to divorce him. Their daughter (Ra’keem and his ex-wife) was the tunnel to his drug usage because of her influence through their daughter. Start fresh, and have a man that DOES NOT have kids. If he has kids with another woman he will tear down your house and everything that you worked for because his kids will go and complain as to why their mother does not have what you have and he will begin to resent you . So DO NOT DO IT .

3 – Girlll… get a man that tells the TRUTH no matter what over a man that LIES ! Girl, if you are dating a man and he honestly tells you that he is attracted to you but he is not ready to be in a committed relationship that is better than being with a man that lies and says that he is faithful and he is NOT ! It is better for a man to be honest and tell you the entire truth of who he is and what he is doing, than a man that lies and this is why. One, girl if he lies and says he is faithful and he is not he WILL get someone else pregnant behind your back and marry them and try to make you the side chick. Two, if he says he is faithful and he is not he WILL give you a sexually transmitted disease and have you in the hospital because he lied and said you were the only one just to have intimacy unprotected and he infected you. Three, Girl if he lies he will steal for that other woman and frame you for it. He will hate you because the other girl lets him do WHATEVER he wants and you ask questions he will turn on you and have another woman in your house and he will lie and tell everyone that he was the one faithful and you cheated (which is a lie), he will lie and say you gave him the diseases (which is a lie), and he will lie and tell everyone that your baby is not his (which is a lie).

4 – Girl the devil is in the church. Just because he is a pastor does not mean he is a good husband. Girl men who are pastors (modern day) have pornography addictions and problems, their unfaithful, and their compulsive liars. Most modern day pastors are perverts and they cannot control themselves. They listen to other women over their wives and do some of the most hurtful things to their wives and girl that is white and black and hispanic pastors. Do NOT date a Pastor.

5 – Girl keep your instagram on private and do not tell anyone when you start dating a new man. Keep everyone out your business. Girl, if he send his friends to come get you reject him because his friends will be his downfall. He needs to be a man and meet you and talk to you like a man. If he wants you then he needs to meet you face to face, and get him tested ! I do not care, be honest about your status and you do not lie either and get him tested to make sure that he does not have any sexually transmitted diseases. Do not be irresponsible with your body and do not date a man that is irresponsible with his body. DO NOT date a man that meets women online and sleeps with them. DO NOT date a man that meets women on dating apps like plenty of fish or tinder and sleeps with them, he could give you HIV/AIDS or HERPES or Something else. Do not do it !

6 – Girl I got to keep going. DO NOT DATE A MAN THAT YOU HAVE MORE MONEY, INFLUENCE, OR WORK HARDER THAN ! Girrrrrrrrrrrrllllllllllllllaaaaaaaa heeeeeeeedddddd my warning ! Do not date a man you have more money, more influence, or work harder than because he WILL try to destroy everything that you worked for and he WILL beat you. You need a man that has more money than you because then he will not be jealous of you and try to destroy everything that you worked for. You need a man that has more influence than you so he can manage you and protect your influence and your destiny, and you need a man that works harder than you so that when you have a baby your body can heal the proper way. I did not get a chance for my stomach to heal after I had a baby so I had a pregnant pouch for almost three years. So I do not want you to go through something that bad , because that really was hard to deal with. So you need a man that works harder than you so when you have a baby you can take some time off and your body recover without you worrying about bills and formula and other things.

7 – Celibacy. If you had a man that you had a child with, it is best for you to be celibate until the child is 18 years old. This is why. I am sorry to tell you this but these men are so evil, you do not want to lose the love of your life because your ex was jealous of your new relationship and accused you of doing something with him that put your child in danger, because if that happens then the man that you love has every right to leave you and that is not sin because he has to protect himself from accusations. So it is best to just raise the children and focus on being a good mother, and wait on God and then God will give you a man who is like a Chief because you were holy when you waited.

I know I said I do not want a husband, but I do want to be married. But I understand the burden I have to carry. So yes, I believe in God for a new husband but I am going to wait and focus on doing ministry while I parent and raise my child.

Queen Diamond

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The Persecution That The God Of Jacob Revealed To Me That I , Diamond , Am About To Face.

  • Ezekiel 2:5-7

TODAY the Lord said these things to me , “ Release your persecution and put this in an article and release . In 1 year you will be persecuted for defending a black man who is a rapper , you will be told that you are not even fully black by racist Caucasian women on YouTube and on Instagram and on Facebook and on Twitter . In 1 year , racist white women are going to begin to say racist things about this rappers physically features as a black man and you will defend him against racism . You will be persecuted on google when you do and your name will be linked to a rappers name in hopes that if you are over exposed that your secrets will come out but there is no secret to be revealed because you live by The Holy Bible and practice what you preach . You will be persecuted for 5 years and slandered and told that the only reason a black man wants you is because you’re Colombian and you will be told that the only reason you have long hair is because you are mixed with white . Not only that you will be told online to go back to the strip club because that’s where your Colombian body belongs . Ignore them says the Lord , and do not argue with them because the police are watching and they will want to say that you are cyber bullying these racist Caucasian women who are going to do and say these things about you , because they are envious of your beauty because you are beautiful says the Lord , and the God of Jacob will protect you from being arrested says the Lord because of racism . You will become a staple and pillar in the black community as they watch you handle this persecution with grace , class , and elegance because you are being persecuted for being a black woman a voluptuous body that is elegant and feminine. Release this as I have given it to you and date it , says the The Lord Of Heaven’s Army “.

  • Queen Diamond
  • 1/01/2024

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There IS NO other Tupac

So , in my mind Tupac is my baby daddy and I have his child , he buys me diamonds and jewels , tells me I’m his main chick , and reads the Bible … buuutttt then I watch his I get around video and realize that my baby daddy Tupac can’t be tied down and he sleeps around so I probably have to look for a new Gansta boo very soon to spare my beautiful heart 🙃 but until then I have to state that there is NO female Tupac and there is no other Tupac . Now , I speak on the behalf of Tupacs fans that we are very tired of your disrespecting my baby daddy .

1 – Tupac is NOT gay and he is not bisexual so the people who STOLE his estate needs to stop lying on my man 🙃 if you wanna be gay then go to hell and be gay BUT stop lying on MY MAN and releasing gay clothes in MY MAN name . Thanks lying hoes .

2 – CAN’T NONE of these female rappers rap like my man so stop comparing them CAUSE THERE AINT NO comparison . All they do is hold they legs open and rap so men buy they’re songs … MY MAN HAS TALENT and they DO NOT !

3 – As his first gospel singing baby muva, I speak on behalf of his fans saying we are reaaaaalllyyyyyy tired of you lying on our FAV rapper . JUST STAWP IT !! We tired of you faking on him because he ain’t say nothing . Stop lying on MY man .

4 – I’m getting really tired of you talking about my man teeth and his nose ! FIRST of all I adore my man teeth and his nose , you jealous heifers !

So as I close , no I am not Tupac’s literally baby moms but oh yes how I wish I was and as a fan I can dream can’t I ? Just saying I make pretty babies . So I shoot my shot with fine black millionaire that’s raps? I’m just talking . Matter of fact . I honestly don’t know how I’m going to get a new husband because like my next man gunna see that I was crushing on 2pac 😩 but that’s tea ☕️

I Said WHAT I Said ,

Queen Diamond

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Why I Am Getting A Divorce and Will Be A Baby Mom’s BUT NOT A Wife Again !

Hey Yall,

Today is 2024 and I have so much time today. I am about to pull a Katt Williams and tell why I am NEVER getting married again and why my ex-husband has to be the most disgusting and repulsive human being that I have ever met. Everyone knows that I used to have a cleaning business, so I like to keep things clean and neat. Before I begin to explain I must openly confess that GOD told me NOT to marry Ra’keem !!!! I have never in my life seen such a dirty and nasty BUM and filthy. One, when we first met he tried to make it seem like he was clean and had his stuff squared away… but when I started living with him and his family ? Ra’keem and his mother Tanya are the dirtiest and nasty people I have EVER met in my entire LIFE ! One, Ra’keem used to have a dog and he would let the dog urinate and poop on his bed and sheets and floor and he would NOT clean it for months at a time. He would let his daughter, Taylor play in a room with feces and urine and glass all over the floor and refuse to correct her and clean it up. Not only that, if Taylor did not want to bathe for weeks at a time he would get angry at anyone who would correct her and tell her to bathe and EVEN told her mother that she was not allowed to correct her own daughter…. NOT ONLY THAT < his nasty mother Tanya takes special needs people into church and then manipulates them and gets them involved into sexual relationships with her and she does not clean and had rats and gnats all over the house ! If that was not enough, when I moved to New Bern I had my own home and it was clean this fool came and was leaving my house nasty and had me arrested and lied on me for stuff I did not do. Then he had the never to go weeks at a time not brushing his teeth and showering and then went and told people that I was a “Sexual anorexic” which is NOT TRUE ! Nah, the fool was DIRTY and I used to pretend to be sleep just so she would not want to sleep with me because he was so disgusting and filthy and dirty . Then when I told him to clean up… HE REFUSED ! The NERVE then he has the nerve and then the police have the nerve to take his side , which was wrong ! Not ONLY THAT, I had to constantly tell him to STOP talking about sex and adult content infront of my daughter because it was wrong ! I came home from running errands and caught him watching him PG-13 movies infront of my two year old daughter !!!

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Oh , then it gets better.. the fool poops himself !!! The fool had the nerve to tell me he would rather be gay then be with his ex-wife April, (while I was pregnant) then I had to deal with MEN flirting with him infront of my daughter !! Not only that, he poops himself and then when I told him he had the entire smelling like s*** he got angry at me and told me that he did not have to take a shower ! He left his draws filled with poop in the floor for days and I had to clean it up because the house smelled like s*** !!! Then he got angry and stormed out when he pooped himself and refused to shower then he got upset got in the shower and stopped coming home (because I told him to shower). Then he had the NERVE to cheat with some woman he met at waffle house (I guess she dirty like him so they a good match) and have the nerve to leave the house nasty ! Not only that, he threw my baby birth certificate and social security card away to be spiteful because I had her stuff squared away . But guess what y’all? This man is a PASTOR !! His mother is a PASTOR !! His spiritual “grandmother” has her own street in Salisbury, Maryland “Reverend Annette Wilson” and her own day! This is crazier !!! Tell me why, his mother Tanya had started talking bad about Reverend after her funeral and lied on her at the FUNERAL ! Not only that, Tanya and Ra’keem was trying to take over her church and become the pastor !! Baby, they were only pretending for over 40 years just to take over her church when she died ! Boy ninjas is crazy !!! Lawdd, let me tell you something !! Then his brother jumped me (you already know I won ) because I did not want to be with him and his mother told him to do it because I was going to college ! Yeah, I had a little bruise after that incident but it was nothing major. Then the Prince George’s Police had the NERVE to tell me I was the one being immature and The Kinston Police told me that I was angry and jealous of Ra’keem because he was cheating on me (which was a LIE) !!!! Then , the property I was renting from Ra’keem caused the business communication to turn sour, BUT the building had MAJOR issues and then the property had the nerve to ask how in the world did invest almost $6,000 into the building and refused to give me the security deposit back and the building was unable to inhabit for church and NOT up to code! Baby what I officially started my business Jesus Is Lord Christ Chapel LLC in 2020, and in the four years in business this is what I learned .

  • Sometimes other black people HATE to see a black person doing well.
  • If you marry the wrong person , they will set you up and call the police on you because you have a business.
  • When GOD say do not marry someone THAT IS WHAT GOD MEANS !!
  • Business has ALOT of racism and the police will target you !!
  • Some buildings you rent from yield no return and the landlord will swindle you, do not waste your time arguing !!
  • Lastly, I need Jesus because baby the way my anger is set up ? Yeah I need to relax.

I am going to list all the evidence I have below. I must say that I would RATHER be a single mom than be with one of those trifling men ! Ra’keem tried to make be feel bad for leaving him and told me most black women do not have a husband and wish they had a husband , but fool you ugly dirty no body having females can have him !!! Baby , I relinquish him!! Tell him to stop texting my phone asking if I still love him take this ninja and his dirty a** and his crazy a** mama and family ! You hoes is NOT hurting my feelings take him !!!! You hoes can have all my exes because they all disgust me !

Below Is The Evidence To Show How NASTY Ra’keem Is

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Below Is The Evidence To Show HOW Trifling The Last Realty Company I Rented From & Spent & $6,000 Trying To Fix Something I Did NOT DO !!

Below is the cute little bruise that was left after his brother and family arranged for me to be jumped 3 weeks after I had a baby because they were jealous that I was going to college. Then Ra’keem says, “well you married me”… Ra’keem as I have told you before GOD TOLD ME NOT TO MARRY YOU . Ra’keem you are hideous inside and out and I wish I never met you. You repulse me and make my skin crawl and I truly hate you and wish I never married you on 2/21/2023. Ps.. yes I have freckles I know that.

  • Queen Diamond

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Hey Everyone !

I have been away for a long time. I have been going through some very serious things, and I want everyone to know that I am okay. I am going to be doing less YouTube and more blogging. Below are some of my latest books. Also, I have a new boyfriend named Keenan Myles Hammonds and we are engaged . Love you all with the love of the Lord ! Below are links to my latest books also !

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The Truth About Divorce As A Single Black Mom

God Is Not Going To Bless Them

Galatians 6:7-9

King James Version 7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.

God Is Not Blessing Them 

As I was faced with the very real truth about divorce and all that I have gone through I realized that my marriage cannot be revived. Today God was speaking to me about my love life and the men I have dated in the past and the Lord said, “let them go”. Yes. God told me to let ALL of them go. I realized that because I have become more well known that I have dealt with jealousy and cruelty to a whole new level. I realized that the racism I dealt with mixed with the constant bad decisions that my husband makes has caused me to accept that I am done. 

As a single mother, I realized that my husband’s constant bad decisions have severely impacted my daughter and I and I are done. No more back and forth , I am getting a divorce. I do not understand how my soon to be ex-husband could make such bad decisions and then somehow try to play the victim and say he hates himself for what he did to me. The thing is every relationship does not end because of infidelity. My soon to be ex-husband did not cheat but he is a compulsive liar. He lies about everything, he will look me in my face and lie and then get upset that I do not believe his lie and continue to lie. But the lying has gotten so bad that he has put my daughter and I  in severe danger more than once. He takes better care of his other daughter than mine and then gets angry when I address it. He has done everything he can to stop me from working to earn my own money. He has lied and caused me to be in legal battles that were not my own, and thankfully I have had victory over them. Yet, what God has told me is, “get ready to go”. Yes, God told me to leave him. 

God helped me to see that the provision that my soon to be ex-husband currently has is only to provide for Ruth and I. God made me see that this generation of men must reap what they have sown. The things that this generation of men do is plain evil and it is wrong. I look forward to the day of my divorce. Being married to him was a nightmare. I gave him a house filled with love and peace and he can vouch for that which is why he doesn’t want a divorce. He keeps pushing back the date and he looks shocked when I say we’re getting a divorce. My ex-husband and I were married in New Bern, North Carolina. In North Carolina the rules for divorce are very complicated. Both people have to prove that they were not with each other for

1 year before they can legally file for divorce. We have both agreed that I will have full sole custody of her and he does not pay child support that is the deal. 

But honestly, God TOLD me not to marry him. I will never forget that day I got married I had a dream the night before God said , “Don’t do it ! Don’t marry him” ! So because I married God told me that he was going to show who he really is. Yes he did and I want out. Marrying him was a mistake. I have never seen a man like him. For a man to make bad decisions that cause a domino effect on his family and be only concerned about a coke head’s problems ? Yeah.. I’m good. Lesson learned. 

As a black woman I understand that self-worth must be taught. As a black woman who is becoming a single mother I am very disgusted by what happened in my marriage. He told me he hates himself for what he did to me and he does because I was truly a good wife. I do not have time for the influence of women to constantly cause him to make terrible decisions. 

Someone who is a bad decision maker can and will be the end of a marriage and end of a family. Because those bad decisions lead to serious consequences. As I am walking on water, I accept that this marriage was a mistake. Like I have told him the only good thing I got from it was my daughter. 

Every Birthday for me and my daughter he has ruined, yet he expects everyone to hurdle around his other child and Ruth and I are not doing it. I told my daughter the other day she is no one’s embarrassment and she is no one’s back up plan. I will NOT teach my daughter to allow any man to give her bread crumbs and not even her father. He already knows that his family is NOT allowed to see Ruth and it is because of their drug usage. 

As a single mother, I have had to learn some valuable lessons about obedience. Everything I worked for he tore down. As a dating mom, I realize that a reason I do not think I will be quick to date again is because it is terrible being married to someone who will ruin everything you worked for. For my husband to ruin what I worked for is a different level of pain. This man is not some bum I met on the street, this is my husband. I do not know if I will be able to trust another man right away because I cannot allow a man to cause me to lose what I worked for. Mentally, emotionally, and physically I am done with this marriage and my daughter and I are moving on. I refuse to date anyone from my past because I will NOT allow another irresponsible man to put my daughter and I at risk of losing everything again. In this situation I was NOT chasing a man, this was my HUSBAND , a man that I did business with… I am DONE. I am done. 

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