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A Black Woman’s Son Is Not Her Husband
A Black Woman’s Son Is Not Her Husband
Leviticus 18:7-17
Easy-to-Read Version
7 “You must never have sexual relations with your father or mother. She is your mother, so you must not have sexual relations with her. 8 You must not have sexual relations with your father’s wife, even if she is not your mother, because that is like having sexual relations with your father.9 “You must not have sexual relations with your sister. It doesn’t matter if she is the daughter of your father or your mother. And it doesn’t matter if your sister was born in your house or at some other place.10 “You must not have sexual relations with your granddaughter. It doesn’t matter whether she is the daughter of your son or the daughter of your daughter—they are all a part of you!11 “If your father and his wife have a daughter, she is your sister. You must not have sexual relations with her.12 “You must not have sexual relations with your father’s sister. She is your father’s close relative. 13 You must not have sexual relations with your mother’s sister. She is your mother’s close relative. 14 You must not have sexual relations with the wife of your father’s brother. You must not go near your uncle’s wife for sexual relations. She is your aunt.15 “You must not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law. She is your son’s wife, so you must not have sexual relations with her.16 “You must not have sexual relations with your brother’s wife. That would be like having sexual relations with your brother.17 “You must not have sexual relations with a mother and her daughter or her granddaughter. It doesn’t matter if this granddaughter is the daughter of this woman’s son or daughter. Her granddaughters are her close relatives. It is wrong to do this.
Pictures Say A lot
When I look on social media I have seen some disturbing images of black mothers and their sons. I have seen black boys hugging their mothers and touching their butts and there posing as if they are in relationship with one another and its wrong. I want you to know that the word of God strictly prohibits this, but its severely common amongst black women.
It is no secret that black families suffer the most, but it is also no secret that many black influencers are trying to present a better image for black families. But I do have to say something to these black women who are being extremely inappropriate with your son who is your own flesh and blood.
- Your son is not attracted to you
- Your son does not want to see your panties
- Your son is not looking at you
- Your son does not want to kiss you
- Your son does not want to marry you
Young Black Men Need To Get Married and Have a Wife
When a young black man finds a wife, his responsibility now is to his wife and their children, NOT the mother! As a mother you cant make his wife feel bad because he wants to spend time with her. This is not a competition, she is the wife and you as the mother is not the wife. Black women need not argue with there son’s girlfriend because he is becoming a man and preparing to become a husband. The word of God says a man shall leave his mother and cling with his WIFE (Genesis 2:24).
The truth of the matter is a lot of black women are about to lose their relationships with there sons because of there inappropriate behavior. Another thing, as a black woman your son is not the replacement to his father because the father didn’t want you. Some black women will name the son after the father, kick the father out the picture, and then try to form a unusually affectionate relationship with the son (to make up for what went wrong with the father) and that is wrong. You are NOT his wife and you are NOT his girlfriend.
As A Black Mother
As a black mother, if you know better you do better. You have to have boundaries with your children. As an older black woman you cant attack his wife, because you feel like you are being replaced.
One – Yes you are being replaced, because you are walking into a spot you are not supposed to be in. You are not supposed to be held in the honor of a wifely position with your son, and yes God is sending a wife quickly to get your son away from you because you are wrong. That is according to the Book of Leviticus.
Two – Your sons are not going to sympathize with you and they are not going to fall for your fake tears. Your son is going to choose his girlfriend or wife side, because YOU are inappropriate.
I grieve for the sake of black women, but I know that we will see a brighter day. But I have to address that. There is so many negative assumptions about black women and sadly many of it is true, but as a black woman (though I am mixed ethnicity) I feel like it is my job and due diligence to change the negative image of black motherhood into a positive image of black motherhood. Moral of the story, your son is not your husband. Stop bothering him and let him live with his wife and peace.
Minister Precious-Diamond Sandre’a Chessier
What A Night It Has Been
Isaiah 54:17New King James Version
17 No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
And every tongue which rises against you in judgment
You shall condemn.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
And their righteousness is from Me,”
Says the Lord.
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Being a parent comes with unexpected hospital visits. On this episode of the ghetto parenting life chronicles, my ( daughter Ruth) had to be admitted. I believe God for supernatural healing. ( Ruth ) was very sick and throwing up . I say this because as a parent don’t automatically assume that throwing up is normal because it could be a sign that the child needs to go to the doctor.
Because we will be in the hospital for one week. Moral of the story don’t automatically assume that your child is being “extra”, “dramatic”, or “doing something for attention”. Something could really be wrong so get it checked out !
Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier
Trusting God While Raising A Child Born Premature
Isaiah 53:5New International Version
5 But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was on him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
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In 2021 I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl named Ruth, who was born premature. In the Black culture I don’t think premature birthing is discussed and how time consuming and how much it costs financially. Don’t think that once they get older the sickness is over because it’s not. Actually , as they get older more is discovered and because the medical field is evolving. When ( Ruth) was a baby , it was recommended that (she) have surgery.. However I didn’t feel the peace of God on that and that was when we were living in a house in Oxon Hill , Maryland. Years later as a single mother I am still dealing with the consequences financially of having a (baby that was born sick ) by myself.
In this season I am learning contentment and I am learning to thank God in all circumstances, in all situations, and all events. So I bless the name of the Lord in the midst of this. I thank God that he has provided insurance. I thank God he has provided money. I thank God he has provided more than enough for me to take care of my daughter.
i say this so that you know don’t think you have a premature baby it’s over when they turn one because it’s not.
You’re just getting started. There are unplanned emergency rooms visits, surgeries , doctor’s notes , excused absence from school due to medical reasons , pediatricians, and so much more involved with having baby born premature. My original due date was October 19, 2021 – she was born September 23, 2021.
No , the father ( Ra’keem ) has not been helpful. I have had to deal and handle this all financially myself but God has helped me. Moral of the story when you have a premature baby brace yourself for the reality of :
- Stomach surgery
- Autism diagnosis
- Asthma
- Speech Therapy
And so much more. But know that even if you are doing it as a single parent the Lord will send people to help you and he will indeed provide.
Sincerely,
Minister Precious – Diamond S. Chessier
Learning How To Protect Your Good Decisions
Learning How To Protect Your Good Decisions
Verse Of The Day , “28 Micaiah declared, “If you ever return safely, the Lord has not spoken through me.” Then he added, “Mark my words, all you people!” – 1 Kings 22:28 NIV
Protecting What You Pray For
As I was getting ready today a word dropped in my spirit about protecting your decision making. See when you make the right decision, you should know that it is indeed coming from God. However, there are people who may try to conspire against you to try and make it seem like your decision is a lie and it is not , and that is something that I learned the hard way in 2023.
In 1 Kings 22, the prophet has said that King Ahab was going to die and that prophecy was indeed true. God had already determined that King Ahab was going to die. However, there were 400 people (lying false prophets) that had prophesied success for King Ahab even though they were wrong. Now 400 people had conspired against Prophet Micaiah and tried to make it seem like his prophecy was wrong, so much so that they even arrested him and put him in jail.
“28 Micaiah declared, “If you ever return safely, the Lord has not spoken through me.” Then he added, “Mark my words, all you people!” – 1 Kings 22:28 NIV
But Micaiah Was Right
But it did come to pass and it was proven so that Micaiah was right, and all the other 400 people were indeed wrong. King Ahab did die just like Prophet Micaiah said.
When I read 1 Kings 22 , God began to speak to me that you have to understand some people will lie on you because you are making the right decision, and in the end those who are like Ahab are still going to die. So no matter what they do, you will still come out on top. You will be the head and not the tail. You will be above and not beneath. You have to protect yourself , from the attacks that come from people who are jealous that you are making the right decision. Because the first thing someone will do when they are jealous of your decision is lie and try to have you put into prison, but the God that you serve will not allow that according Isaiah 54:17.
I pray that God will show you through reading The Holy Bible, how to guard your good decisions from the devourer (Malachi 3:10, Proverbs 4:23). You have to keep people away from you, who are jealous of your good decisions and who will conspire against you because you are making GOOD decisions.
Your good choices matter before God, and it is showing that he can trust you with choices and paths. In life you should desire to be responsible and be professional. God has a good thing prepared for your life, but he needs you to gain wisdom in protecting your choices and protecting your decisions.
“The [reverent] fear of the LORD [that is, worshiping Him and regarding Him as truly awesome] is the beginning and the preeminent part of wisdom [its starting point and its essence], And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding and spiritual insight”. – Proverbs 9:10 Amplified Bible
Minister Precious-Diamond Chessier
The Purpose Of Elevation
The Purpose Of Elevation
Verse Of The Day : “Fair and beautiful in elevation, the joy of all the earth, Is Mount Zion [the City of David] in the far north, The city of the great King”. – Psalms 48:2 Amplified Bible
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Making Better Decisions
Two years ago, I went through a very dark betrayal from my soon to be ex-husband Ra’keem. During that time, I have no idea how I made it and it could have only been the grace and power of God. I was shocked to find out that some people get so jealous of you that they conspire legally to destroy you, and then God has to step in and stop them (Isaiah 54:17 AMP). As a single mother, as I have started moving forward and moving on with my life I have to recover and heal , and at night wipe my own tears away. I had to be strong for myself. I had to make decisions that were best for me and my child. I had to pick myself up and keep going. I know that the word of God says that no weapon formed against you shall prosper and it is true. No weapon of lying shall prosper. No weapon of eviction shall prosper. No weapon of being wrong accused and arrested shall prosper. No weapon shall prosper. I decided that I would speak good things and know that everything is working for my good and that it is good.
It Will Get Better
I was studying the book of lamentations and how the prophet felt while writing. That is why I like looking at that chapter because he keeps it all the way real. He is telling you the truth and he is saying that he was indeed going through a tough time. He was a prophet and he was going through a wilderness and many times he asked God why, but he kept going. But there is this verse that got my attention in Lamentations 1:12 International Version , ““People have heard my groaning, but there is no one to comfort me. All my enemies have heard of my distress; they rejoice at what you have done. May you bring the day you have announced so they may become like me”. I heard God say, “To get you out faster and quicker, I have to let someone suffer what you suffered. Do not aide them, just keep going”. In this season, people are going to suffer what you suffered, and you must keep going forward. The people who did harm to you are going to suffer and be repayed the evil that they delivered because they are reaping what they have sown. I want you to know that the word of God says in Psalms I believe that they who sow in tears shall reap in joy. I believe that God is preparing you to reap in joy and I want you to know that this too shall pass. You are walking down a road into Elevation. You will be elevated and you will be blessed I believe that in 2026 it is a Psalms 23:5 year, that God is preparing tables of blessings, favor, and grace on your behalf.
From Minister Precious-Diamond Chessier ,
Real Life Real Jesus 